Sex and relationships

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Sex and relationships
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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 9:35am
in your opinion is sex a huge factor for you in a relationship/marriage?
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 9:41am

That depends entirely on the person. For some, lack of sex would be a deal breaker. For others, it's not a big deal.

I know women who didn't like sex (I suspect it was because their partner wasn't a very good lover) and once they had the children they wanted, it was over. I know others who are sexually active into their 70's and older.

The real problem comes in when the partners are mismatched. If one partner has a high libido, and the other isn't interested......that's when they'll "stray". If they both have low libidos, and they're both not interested, then it's fine for them.

It wouldn't be fine for me....

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 9:50am

YES!



I think sex is a huge factor, especially finding sexual compatibility. For me, that means lots of sex, at least right now. There was a time when we weren't having sex often enough to even remember what it felt like, and that was a difficult time in our marriage. I know other couples that rarely (if ever) have sex, and they seem happy as can be, so they are obviously sexually compatible too.




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Registered: 02-13-2006
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 9:51am
Yes I think sex is a huge factor in a relationship. Im not saying its first on my list becuas i need the guy to communicate, intelligence, personality and how he treats me but if two people arent connected physically I think in the long run it will definatly have an impact on their marriage/relationship.
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Registered: 05-11-2007
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 1:02pm
As someone that wants it all the time and has been in not one, but two ML marriages (husbands were LL) -- yes it is important.
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 1:09pm
Yes, I believe so. It's important and significant enough that the lasting effects, whether positive or negative, can be felt thru out the relationship and even by others in the home.
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Registered: 08-12-2002
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 3:12am
One word: YES!

 


 


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Registered: 02-26-2001
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 10:58am

"I know women who didn't like sex (I suspect it was because their partner wasn't a very good lover)"

Do you also think that if a man isn't interested in sex that it's most likely because the woman he's with isn't a very good lover?

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Registered: 08-16-2007
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 3:55pm
In the relationships years ago, I could go without it and wouldn't think anything is wrong. Now with my current BF (hopefully someday something more), I think about sex all day long until we're together at night. And on the way back to my place AFTER we made love... We can't get enough of each other! The respect, compatibility and being sould mates truely has everything to do with this. I always though of people talking about soul mates as being full of crap! But the simularities in how we grew up, what our beliefs are and how we can end each others sentences, etc., are all too convencing for me!
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 4:05pm

That depends on each individual couple.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 4:16pm
I'm not Sakura but I'll answer with my opinion which is yes.
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