sex and virginity

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sex and virginity
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Mon, 06-05-2006 - 12:15pm
When you have sex with someone whom, is a virgin does it feel or seem differn't that having sex with someone whom is a non virgin. Males or females please reply
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mvirgk
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 12:45pm

No. Especially not with male virgins. Same organs involved.

With a female virgin, there is the little issue of the hymen that might or might not cause intercourse to be more difficult the 1st time.

Sexual inexperience of a true virgin would be the only difference, rather than any physical difference, I would say.

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: mvirgk
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 3:03pm

It depends on how you define virginity. A male "virgin" usually implies no knowledge at all about women and their bodies. A female "virgin" usually implies that she hasn't had intercourse, but that doesn't mean she hasn't been sexually active, and therefore she might be knowledgeable about sexual things.

A female "virgin" might have a hymen, which could make things difficult, but many females don't have a problem with that. Also, if a woman has never had intercourse, and her partner doesn't understand the need for LOTS of foreplay and arousal and lubrication, it could be terrible......probably painful and certainly not pleasant.

The most important thing that makes a sexual experience a GOOD experience, is knowledge. If you understand your body, and your partner's body, and vice versa....it should be good. Even NON virgins have to learn about a new partner, and what they want and need sexually.

If you're a virgin, and contemplating sex with someone, it's important that they know you're a virgin. They might not be able to tell physically, or by any FEELING, but if they don't know, and they assume that you're not a virgin, they might act or treat you differently.....which could be disastrous. If you're a virgin, it's something you need to tell any prospective partner, because they NEED to know. It's certainly not something you should hide or lie about.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: mvirgk
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 10:46pm

Depends a lot on how you define "virgin". Originally being a virgin meant someone who has not had *any* sexual experience and especially never had sexual intercourse. Of course nowadays it seems that even if a person is a virgin they will have just about done everything sexual that there is to do EXCEPT had intercourse - and that covers an awful lot of different things. I know a girl that had done everything, given and received oral sex, had anal sex, used a vibrator (and inserted it) and even rubbed a penis against their vulva (but not put it in) that considered herself to be a virgin. Technically she was, but it was certainly stretching the definition to it's ultimate limit.

So anyway, back to the question, No, it doesn't feel any different once you're inside her. The only way of telling would be if she acts like she is inexperienced and acts like she's never done it before. The only other way of telling would be some girls can't relax enough to allow penetration (their muscles unconciously tighten up because they're nervous) and a guy wouldn't be able to penetrate her. Even then that isn't a definite sign that she's a virgin. It probably just means she's nervous with you or "might" be a virgin. It's not definite proof one way or the other.

Same thing with a guy. An erect penis is an erect penis. Doesn't feel any different. Only way that you might get an idea of whether or not he's a virgin is by how he acts. If he seems inexperienced then he might be a virgin - or he might not have had much experience.