sex clubs/swinging

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Tue, 12-13-2005 - 3:39pm
Just curious how many, if any, of you out there have been to a sex club where you can go alone or with a partner to just watch, participate, or be watched. What was it like, especially if you went with your partner?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: 67girl
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 4:44pm

Not me, never been to one and


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: 67girl
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 6:27pm
I prefer to get all of my sexual excitement with my dear wife.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: 67girl
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 7:43pm
Nope, sorry, can't help. Been to an ordinary old strip club (males and females) with my partner but never been to a sex club where intercourse is involved in any way.
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Registered: 10-24-2001
In reply to: 67girl
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 9:50am
Thanks. I was just trying to get an idea of how mainstream this type of activity might be. My BF has expressed interest in going to a club where casual and group sex is out in the open. Doesn't want to hook up with others, just maybe keep to ourselves and do stuff on our own but with others around. Don't know if I would be comfortable in that situation, but may be willing to check it out, just out of curiosity. Who knows, maybe it would be fun?
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Registered: 03-23-2005
In reply to: 67girl
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 3:21pm

i have 2 couples who have told me about these sex clubs.

One is a place that you go to, a home and there are sexually
willing people there and you can pick who you want to be
with, and go into a room and do whatever you want. This
acquanitance of mine said she went to one with her hubby,
cuz in the past she found out her hubby cheated on her, and
it was kinda a payback, but the hubby was willing, and he
even went into another room with a new gal.

Also another couple wanted to watch other people orally
satifsy their partners, and they said they each chose
a person of the opposite sex, and the people gave them
oral sex as they both watched eachother being orally
satisfied by strangers.

Hey, the clubs are out there and some may be different
than others, but they are out there.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2005
In reply to: 67girl
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 4:29am

Thank you for posting such a good question and think it is a good fit for this board. We have not been to a club, yet but have done some research. It is a good idea to do some research before contacting and going to the club. Reason being, each club is different and serve different clientels. Some may cator to single men whereas others prohibit them. Other clubs may have bi nights, single woman nights, CD/TV/TS, greedy girl nights, and other type of nights. So knowing something about the club will help you plan your attendance, identify any questions you may have for the club, and give you a very broad impression if this is a club you would want to attend. Once you have decided to attend the club, contact the club before attending to find out their policy regarding newbies, in regards to attendace to the club and find out if they have any dress codes. By doing this you will avoid any initial akwardness or uncomfortableness by just showing up. Not to mention some clubs will have a screening process before they let you in the first time so it is a good idea to bring anything they need.

Once in make sure you follow the rules explicitly especially if you are a single man. No need to embarass yourself or get yourself banned.

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Registered: 10-24-2001
In reply to: 67girl
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 2:49pm
Thanks. Yes, a good idea to research the place, I agree. The place we found out about is quite pricey to get in, and does not allow gay men. You also have to leave with the person you came in with. How they enforce it, I don't know. I believe single men are not allowed either - they have to be with a female. They have different party themes, which you sign up for and pay for before even getting in the door. I think they might have a long waiting list to even get in. This is in a major city, and their web site gives lots of info.
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Registered: 12-10-2005
In reply to: 67girl
Sun, 12-18-2005 - 1:10pm

My Husband and I have been to a number of clubs and have always had a good time,He took me to our first club about seven years ago and we like the voyuer part of the club since we don't share each other.You would never guess the people who are there would ever be there because there are a variety of ocupations and just your every day people.We have been to clubs in non-English speaking countries and the owners of the clubs made us feel very welcomed along with the other guess.The clubs we go to are no pressure have great food and its something you will NEVER for get so give one a try.Get to the club early eat dinner and enjoying the music and dancing if your club has that because that will make you more relaxed and you get to meet some great people.The clubs are great for women since we can feel safe and express our sexuality with no judgement.

In the 70s and earlier oral sex was taboo now its the norm so this is not in area of taboo,its also not if your fullfils you of not and somebody needs more like one guy said,its about be with open minded sexually free people.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
In reply to: 67girl
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 7:42am
I'm a single (recently divorced) male, and I've done some research on sex clubs. It seems that many, maybe even most, of them prohibit single men...though a lot will accept single women. Not sure why, it's just the way it is.
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Registered: 08-04-2004
In reply to: 67girl
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 5:11pm
I've been to several over the years. Now I only frequent 2. They can be quite seedy places actually, but I've found 2 now that are great and fit my interests. The 2 I frequent on occasion are fairly large. They are both tri-level with a full bar and dancing floor on the ground level - just like a regular club. Upstairs on the second levels, there are various rooms that you can either watch or engage in group sex. Clothes are optional - can leave on or off or topless, etc. Third floor offers private rooms for 2 or more, shows - clothing OFF. I have never gone with anyone I'm in love with. Just casual flings or guys and friends who have never been to a swing club and want to check it out. People usually progress casually from the dance floor after a few drinks to watch ... see how they feel ... then if they feel comfortable, up to the suites.

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