Sex with DH...

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Sex with DH...
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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 11:44am
My DH and I are in our 20's and have been married for almost 4 years. We have an 18 month old son...our life is amazing. The past few months have been full off stressful events and I haven't been wanting sex as much as DH has. Don't get me wrong, I've pleasured my husband and have not turned him down for anything as we have always had an amazing sex life. Well, the other night our son fell asleep earlier than normal and my DH was being so romantic and over the top! We ended up having the best sex we have ever had! EVER! We took our time and really got down to business. I just couldn't believe that after 4 years of being married and 7 total years of being together that this was the best love making session! I've always loved pleasing him but this time was completely different, he was totally turned on and so into me---it was amazing. How can this happen after so many years? Maybe it was because we actually had time and took our time, whatever it was really worked for us!
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: branflem
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 11:53am

Relationships, marriage, and even sex are a "work in progress". Meaning, it takes work to keep it good. It's not unusual to be busy, tired and stressed out when you have a young child....but you STILL have to make time for your husband, and he for you. So, this time, you MADE time, and it worked out well. And that's what you have to keep doing.

And honey, "all these years"? If you work at it it can be this way after 20, 30 or 40 years, and on to 50 and past. Something you always have to remember....you may have a child or children, and they take a lot of your time and energy, you're their mother, and in many ways they come first. BUT, in 18-20 years, they're going to be leaving the nest, and you and your husband will still be there. If you haven't given him as much attention as you have your kids.....you'll be strangers living in the same house. You were his wife before you were a mother, and you'll be his wife long after your children no longer need your "mothering". Make sure you keep those "fires" burning! When your kids are gone, you two will still be young, and living a second honeymoon 24/7!

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In reply to: branflem
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 1:17pm
I agree with Sakura.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: branflem
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 2:41pm

Welcome to the board branflem.

It sounds like you and DH connected differently. You had time to enjoy each other, didn't feel any stress, you were both probably highly aroused, and everything just clicked together. It's great when that happens. Often, especially when your children are young, it's difficult to find time to connect like this.

As Sakura and Tish said, sex can be great for years to come. I'm 44 and have been married for (almost) 16 years. Sex has always been great, but in the past several months, it's gotten even better. Our kids are getting a little older and more independent, and we are finding more time to be a couple.

It's great that you had such a special experience. It won't happen every time, but if the two of you keep your relationship a priority, you'll find that it can happen often.



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Registered: 10-28-2006
In reply to: branflem
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 5:22pm

I think sex only gets better threw the yrs. The connection gets stronger.
and so does the bond that you share. There's been many times I've thought how
can we top that! And then it does get topped! Like I said I think sex only gets
better threw the yrs. Just like how a relationship get better and stronger threw
the yrs.

kareese

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Registered: 11-15-2006
In reply to: branflem
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 5:40pm
Just to echo what all the other posters have already said, it can be wonderful after many years, and MUCH better. ALl depends on how much you work at it. 24 years married next month (our 28th year together) and we are so much more conencted and in love with each other than ever before. Kids are getting older and we are enjoying some new freedoms and an incedible sex life like never before. Not to say it has been all roses, but we never gave up on US and our commitment to each other.



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Registered: 01-21-2007
In reply to: branflem
Sun, 05-06-2007 - 10:21pm
Thanks a lot for all your replies....it makes me feel awesome knowing that we will continue having great sex from here on out!! That's why I posted this here so I can get opinions from everyone of all ages. And Andrea2552, me and my DH also fantasize about having another female..but of course it isn't ever going to happen with us either! But it is fun fantasizing. My DH fantasizes about it because I use to mess around with my best girlfriend when we were teenagers! But we would never consider it now that we're married..fantasy is never turning to reality these days! hehe Thanks so much! Brandie
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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 7:39am

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