Sex during your period?

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Sex during your period?
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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 12:13am
My bf and I have sex while I'm on my period (ever since I started getting the BC shot, my period has been light enough to do so without worry), and we were talking the other day about it. He said he learned (he's studying to become a nurse, I guess thats how he learned it) that usually when women have sex during their period, they get cramps and stuff. I haven't since we started doing it, and I was surprised myself because I didn't know about that.

I was just wondering if it really is normal for women to get cramps and/or feel pain, and I'm curious to know if I'm an "oddball" lol.

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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 1:47am
No, actually, many women want to have sex (and orgasm) to HELP ease cramps and menstrual pain. IF a woman is prone to cramps after orgasm anyway, then I'm sure having sex during one's period might not be a good idea. But I've never experienced them either.


Edited 8/4/2004 11:25 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 3:42am
VERY interesting question, stormdancer. There actually are very interesting studies out there by both doctors and sexologists that explain why some actually DO suffer cramps.

If the Mrs. & I read the articles correctly, many times post orgasmic headaches and even the infamous cramps are the result of high stress. Since menstruation involves pms which involves high stress for most women, then that high stress continues to affect the brain hormones that control the pressure of blood vessels and tissue against those certain very sensitive nerves in those certain areas after an orgasm (particularly the more powerful ones) occurs.

If I can find more resources, I'll try to post them, in the meantime, here is one of them that we do remember so far by Dr. Lin:

http://www.actionlove.com/cases/case11356.htm

As always, drinking water aides in leveling those hormone levels even during stressful times and has always been a doctors remedy for my wife. Hope this helps. ;)

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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 11:25am
Being on the shot, you are supposed to either not have a period or (like your case) it becomes extremely light. Along with that, other menstrual issues, like cramps and bad PMS, etc. pretty much become non-existant. That may be why you don't expeience this. Also, it is said that having an orgasm while on your period relieves cramps so that may be another reason. I myself have been on the shot ever since before I was sexually active and never experience pain while having sex around that time of the month. But I only get a period about once every 6 months so I guess I am not a good person to try to compare with. HTH!!
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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 2:49pm
That's not true for me, unless I am already not feeling well before we start having sex. Often during my period I am very horny, so have had some conflicts with guys that are squeemish about it. I don't think your experience is unusual.
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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 2:56pm
My bf and I have sex all the time while I am on my period. We just put a towel down and go for it. I am on the pill and don't really have bad cramps anyways but I never have any during of after sex when I am on my period. My bf said he heard that having sex while on your period is supposed to help the cramps.
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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 3:04pm
Wow, I wasn't sure what kind of responses I'd get, but it's interesting to hear all this. I'm going to have to get my bf to read these replies, I think he'll find them interesting too
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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 3:27pm
THATS the idea, storm! LOL, go get 'em! There's actually MUCH throughout all of ivillage that me AND my wife have learned, . If he has any questions of his own, we're here, so let 'em rip!

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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 3:31pm
I must be an oddball because I experience worse cramps when we do it at that time. I also experience more, prolonged bleeding.
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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 4:19pm
I had an ex lover that knew exactly almost to the minute that her period would start. She was a true horndog just before and during her period. She would often call me up and say that her period was going to begin in a few hours and could I please come over and "help" her get it started. Hey! I was always ready to help a gal in distress. I wood then go over to her place and we wood have a hot session or two. She contended that getting a good and proper doggy style banging wood get her period started and wood eliminate any cramping. I was only to happy to lend a hand or should I say a half a foot.