Sex early or later in a relationship?
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Sex early or later in a relationship?
| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 12:41am |
Will waiting (9 months to a year) before having sex with your other half help make your relationship last longer? In comparison to having sex with your partner after a short 2-4 months?

Leticia
It all depends on the two people if and/or when you have sex. As Yarn Lover said, some people have sex on the first date, and wind up married. Some people don't have sex at all until they GET married. One thing I would NEVER do is marry someone without knowing what the sex will be like. It could be a disaster if you have different sex drives.
Don't make the mistake of thinking that if a relationship isn't going well, sex will save it. It won't! Whether or not to have sex, and when to have it is up to the individual. What's right for you might not be right for someone else.
I think though, that young people, esp. women, need to learn how to be discriminating though. Having sex with just every guy you meet, hoping desperately that it will make them 'like' you is the wrong way to go about starting a relationship. And I think too many young people make the mistake of thinking having sex with someone means they are in a serious relationship. *Bzzzz* Wrong answer. It just means you are sexually active with someone. A relationship includes sex (ususally). But sex doesn't always include a relationship.
Tally
**Who for the record had sex with a guy a few weeks after they started dating and married him a year and a half later. And is *still* married to him, going on 20 years later.**
My DH and I "consumated" our relationship after 3 mos. or so of dating, because I like to know the person I'm sleeping with.
But it takes hard work and commitment.....CONCRETE, deliberate things to ensure stability and the ongoing success of a relationship. IF those things take place after a one-night stand, and you're both ready to settle down, then it can happen then as well.