The very first thing I thought of after I finished reading your post was , have you ever told him that you would love it to be more spontaneous? DH and I used to have very routine sex until I took that first step- FIRST. Why not tell him EXActly what you would like. A great way to start talking is tell him you had a very sexy dream and in it such and such happened.
Missy, from this an past posts, I'm thinking you're going to have to lead the way with him if you want to have more spontaneous sex. He's trying to make sure that you don't feel pressured or used by him like you did with your ex. You'll never know unless you give it a try.
Missy,
The very first thing I thought of after I finished reading your post was , have you ever told him that you would love it to be more spontaneous? DH and I used to have very routine sex until I took that first step- FIRST. Why not tell him EXActly what you would like. A great way to start talking is tell him you had a very sexy dream and in it such and such happened.
No, the reality DID NOT live up to the fantasy at all.
And...I guess I do have to talk about spontaneity.
And, he is basically very crippled for his age..is why we probably made the bed on the floor.
He is 48 and he has bone on bone knees, and a herniated disc in his back.