Sex With Guilt

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Sex With Guilt
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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 10:53pm

Do you still have guilt or inhibitions about sex because of things your parents, school or church taught you about sex?


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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 12:42pm

I never had any guilt or inhibitions.

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 12:58pm
INHIBITIONS!!

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 1:01pm
Technically my mother didn't really talk to me when she found out that my period had started. She had ordered these little booklets from Kotex that "supposedly" explained everything. Um, yeah....right....The booklets went into great detail about how fish, chickens and dogs mated, but when it came to humans, it was very vague. I figured that since dogs and humans were more alike than humans were to fish or chickens, that humans had sex the way dogs did. Hey, I wasn't completely wrong! The other "information" these booklets gave me was that masturbation was something only boys did and they grew out of it before they became adults, that homosexuality could be "cured" by psychoanalysis and that husbands and wives "made love" (ie, men and women didn't "have sex" outside of marriage). Oh, and since the books made it pretty clear that girls were supposed to remain virgins until marriage, there wasn't anything on birth control. But there were a lot of horror stories on STDs (or VD, as it was called back then). Needless to say, none of this "info" held any water and I got a better education later on.
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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 1:12pm
Do you think the pleasure you got from the experiences was enough for you to 'toss your inhibitions out the window'?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 1:38pm
Goddess, I would say that a loving and understanding husband can work wonders in ridding a wife of unwanted sexual baggage. I guess there are therapists who can also help. The main obstacle is getting the person to realize just what he/she is missing out on by not shedding the myths.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 4:02pm

Not at all...as many of the other's explained. Sex was not taught in my household. Being raised by a religious single mother with occassional visits to my father's house. She never explained to any of us about sex and what it is about. I've tried to ask questions in the past about oral sex, masturbation



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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 5:06pm
I dont really have any guilt.
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 5:23pm

"Do you think your friends had a lot of facts about sex or were there a lot of myths floating around?"


I dont remember them having any misconceptions about sex.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 6:51pm
I never openly expressed anything about sex until I met one particular woman when I was in my twenties. Until then I would look at Porn and magazines and pretty much figured out how it worked. No input from my parents in that department. This woman was very sexy and very open about sex she would talk about sex and the joys of it and asked me one time what I did. I told her I was still a virgin. Not that was my plan that's just how it has been. Well I almost lost my virginity to her. She had agreed to "break me in" but my guilt kicked in and I respectfully declined. I stayed a virgin until I was 35 when I met my love. I was one to not let anything happen but this was right it felt right and I gave her my virginity long before we got married. I had pretty much gotten over the guilt bit about pre-marital sex and it hit me hard on a trip with her. We were very sexually active and we got gigged about it and my guilt kicked in BIG TIME. I began to question everything that we had done. It took my DW to drag me aside console me and then later that night when I had calmed down we had some of the best sex ever. She told me that it didn't matter your getting it anyway in a few months its my choice that you can have my body now. I got over it and she brought my sexual person out and I helped her overcome some of her hangups. Now its always good and guilt free.



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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 7:37pm
That and a realization that my inhibitions were holding me back from getting the most out of a fabulous relationship with my dh.