sex help

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Registered: 05-24-2005
sex help
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Tue, 05-24-2005 - 8:25am
ok ladies, i need help...i am very happily engaged to my wonderful fiance, we have a great relationship, i exercise all the time, problem is , I never want to have sex, it is NOT him, it is purely my lack of interest in actually having sex, I am NEVER horny and never wnat to have sex, he is more than understanding...i am on the pill, i take a new one its called Yasmin and i really dont know if that has anything to do with it...any suggestions or solutions to my problem....thanks
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Registered: 05-05-2005
In reply to: pickle0109
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 3:46pm

I personally believe that we have the ability to at least somewhat influence our libido level by engaging in thoughts/activities that turn us on. Have you ever tried spending the day thinking about sex. Read some of the wonderful stories on this board.

All oral birth control by nature of how it works has the potential to decrease your libido level. I would keep trying different pills since there are so many options out there until you find something that works for you.

But ultimately I think you need to work hard to figure out how to get your self in the mood. You might try communicating some ideas to your SO so he can help you.

Also try different things – positions, places, toys, erotica, etc. Good luck.

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Registered: 05-05-2005
In reply to: pickle0109
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 3:56pm
I am sorry I meant to say check out some of the stories on the Fantasy board. They have a section just for erotic stories. Also just reading about others sex lives can be exciting.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: pickle0109
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 4:35pm

I would suggest talking with your gynecologist about your total lack of libido. This can be a side effect of the pill or even some other underlying condition that you're unaware of.

You mentioned exercising all the time...do you still have a regular period? If not, then overexercising could be the cause for the lack of libido. Women have to maintain a certain amount of body fat or our regular cycle, and hormone balance, can be affected.

But since you're engaged, this NEEDS to be resolved before the wedding. Your fiance' should be able to expect that his new bride will be as interested in HIM, as he is in you.