sex, how much is too much

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Registered: 06-15-2005
sex, how much is too much
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Fri, 08-19-2005 - 11:44am
i want to know if i have sex 3 times per week that is too much? Also i am in a relationship with aguy he is wonderful quiet calm and honest.but there is aproblem he has a girlfriend who is psycho all she does is threaten me and when i call his phone she says things like wrong number or something else.i recently sent a message to his cell phone telling him that he is avoiding me and the reply was that i am crazy.i dint know what to do i started to cry and frantical wonder how i got into this situation, but the funny thing about it is i think i am falling in love with him i am confused? please i need someone to give me some good advice!!

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 11:53am

The best advice you can get is to find a boyfriend that doesn't already have a girlfriend. Who says she's psycho? She's his GIRLFRIEND....and she doesn't need some other woman interfering in her life! What happens if he leaves her, and some woman starts calling YOU? Then I guess you'll be the psycho!

If he cheats WITH you, he will cheat ON you.....and if he has a girlfriend, then he's cheating on her. Why would you want to be involved with a cheater?

The average amount of sex for most people is 2-3 times a week. I wouldn't worry about too much sex if I were you....I'd worry about his morals.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 11:55am

Okay. IF I'm understanding you correctly...you're having sex with a guy, who has a GF, 3 times a week? I would say that YES, it's too much since he has a GF! Once a week is too much in this circumstance!

Leave this guy alone and find a guy who's unattached. If he'll cheat on his GF, then he would also cheat on YOU and may be cheating on BOTH of you since he's avoiding you!

In an honest and stable relationship, though, the frequency of sex is determined by both partners.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 11:56am

There is no such thing as too much or too little sex.


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Registered: 06-15-2005
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 1:18pm
thank you friend you have made some good points and i thank you for that,i hope to god that i have the strength to let go.any way you said that i called her phone no i called his phone and in no uncertain time will i ever call her. i just want to get out of this situation i told him it will not work but he still insists.i am not answering his calls because i dont know what to say to him i am just laying low for the time.thanks again he will cheat on me if we ever be together so i guess i should just avoid him and move on with my life.
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Registered: 06-15-2005
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 1:50pm

thank you for your honesty but to set the record straight i am not having sex with him 3 times a week ok.There are thing s i cant explain when it comes to my relationships but i have left him and his g/f alone and he still comes back to me what am i suppose to do? iI think like any other man in his circumstances he is weak.

I HAVE LEFT HIM>

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Registered: 06-15-2005
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 2:11pm

well thank you for your reply.First thing she keeps calling me and making threats,i did not seek out her man he came after me,he buys me things and takes me places and buys me stuff, i dont ask him for anything.i know she is not happy but she needs to take it up with him not me.i am falling in love with him because he is so wonderful and smart and everything i need in a man.i dont want him to leave his girlfriend for me because he will probably leave me for someone else.condom usage is a must and i am pregnant.

thank you.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 3:33pm
And do they know you're carrying his child?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 5:04pm
So, because he keeps coming back to you, you have to have sex with him? That's nonsense. IF you move on then he will, too.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 6:52pm
Ok, if you're an Ob/Gyn doc, don't you know how much sex is too much? (if there is such a thing).....
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Fri, 08-19-2005 - 7:55pm
WOW! no comment. i think your lonely and need help

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