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Sex Hurts!
| Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:22am |
I have come across a problem lately. For example, last night I had sex with my boyfriend and everything was fine. This morning, we tried again and it hurt so bad when he was trying to put it in that I had to make him stop. This has been going on for over a month now. I understand that you have to give your body time to "bounce back", but it had been over 12 hours. Shouldn't that be long enough? I'm still pretty young (just turned 24 yesterday!) and I'm not sure if this is something I just have to come to deal with or if there is a problem somewhere within. I am highly appreciative of any suggestions or comments. Thanks!

Sex should not hurt and when it does, there's a reason for it.
No, you don't have to "just deal with it"! This is how your body is, at this point in time. You said it's just lately. Lubrication is largely dictated by foreplay, and by hormones. Your hormones can fluctuate from time to time. Are you getting enough foreplay in the morning, or are you in a hurry, because you have to go to work, or whatever?
The first thing you should do is just simply use some lubricant. That's probably all it will take. If that doesn't help, then as Tish said, it's time to talk to the doctor.
What do you mean by your body having to "bounce back?" Your vagina was created for intercourse so unless he's trying to penetrate before you're well lubed and fully aroused, or you're engaging in intercourse for hours on end, then "bouncing back" shouldn't be required.
Pain tells you that something's wrong, and that should never be tolerated. If you think that something has changed in the last month, then talk with your gyno.