the sex isnt great what do I do?
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the sex isnt great what do I do?
| Wed, 06-23-2004 - 11:40am |
I am involved with some one right now
and he is an incredible man
he is very considerate and sweet and has a great sense of humor
he is successful and just a good man
the problem is
the first time we had sex, well............
it wasnt that great, and I almost didnt feel anything
I dont know how to react to him
I am hoping maybe next time it will be better
is there anything I can do to possibly enjoy it a little more?
please help
and he is an incredible man
he is very considerate and sweet and has a great sense of humor
he is successful and just a good man
the problem is
the first time we had sex, well............
it wasnt that great, and I almost didnt feel anything
I dont know how to react to him
I am hoping maybe next time it will be better
is there anything I can do to possibly enjoy it a little more?
please help

Sex gets better and better the longer you are together. You learn each other's likes and dislikes, and you feel more and more free to express your desires.
I would not worry about first time sex being bland. Give it some time and communicate in a fun, nonjudgmental way.
Peace.
Scott.
Scott is right that it takes time to learn to please a new partner since one way of making love doesn't "fit all."
Don't be hesitant to ask for what you need to enjoy sex though because nothing pleases a good man than knowing he's pleasing his partner. Relax....time, experience with each other and good communication will solve most of your initial problems. Good luck!
Edited 6/23/2004 4:15 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
If it continues to be "not so great", then it's time to start talking. You tell him what you'd like him to do, and what you don't like him to do.....and ask him what you can do for him, too.
Edited 6/23/2004 6:48 pm ET ET by tiana_rose