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| Wed, 10-17-2007 - 12:46pm |
Hi, I have a question that as been on my mind. I know women are different and they want sex differently on different occasions..but pls could you narrow your answers down.
1.what do women really want

what do women really want
I understand that you're trying to narrow some things down, but honestly, each woman will have different things that she enjoys. Is it possible that your GF is having an orgasm during your foreplay? You're mentioning using your penis to stimulate her clitoris. I know for me, that is something I very much enjoy, and can sometimes have an orgasm easier during that type of stimulation than during oral or manual stimulation, although it is usually afterplay in our case.
If she's having difficulty being aroused enough, and well lubricated enough for intercourse, it could be that she's already had an orgasm. There's a definite time frame when I have become aroused enough that I want to move on to intercourse, but if DH keeps going with foreplay beyond that, I will often loose sight of intercourse and loose myself it what is happening.
You might also want to try positions other than missionary. Maybe that isn't working well for her. Do you have the same problems when you're trying different positions?
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>>1.what do women really want during foreplay (<<
It sounds like she is enjoying the foreplay that you do now and if she is getting very wet then she is probably getting very aroused. As already mentioned, don't forget the kissing, caressing and the intimacy. There is no magic answer to what women really want. Every woman can be different. If there *is* one important point to make it is do not forget that there is more to a woman than just her breasts and vagina.
Without more information I suspect that you are doing just fine.
3. I'm not sure of what the answer could be. You really need to find out from her. You should try talking to her about this. Just remember that she may not be able to explain, or feel comfortable, explaining exactly what she wants. However she should be able to give you a general idea of what she wants and what she likes and dislikes. If you gently encourage her and get her to open up, communicate, and talking about the sex then the sex will get better for both of you.
I suspect that she is nervous or scared about intercourse and the pain that she does experience only makes her more nervous and more likely to experience pain. Perhaps she is worried about getting pregnant? Perhaps she was raised to think that sex was a sin or not something that a good girl should do? Again, only she can provide you with the answers.
I do wonder if she is satisfied or having her orgasms from the "legs together" stimulation and is "finished" by the time you want intercourse? That could explain why she is so wet and appears very aroused but doesn't enjoy intercourse and wants you to finish quickly.
The pain during intercourse should decrease to nothing over time as you have more intercourse and you both become comfortable with intercourse and one another. The pain is probably from being nervous and her muscles are tensed and tight. However, if the pain continues she should definitely see a Doctor as something might be physically wrong.