Sex, lack there of.........
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Sex, lack there of.........
| Thu, 05-19-2005 - 11:56am |
We have been dating for 3 months now, I am 28 he is 23. and sex was pretty frequent in the beginning. I am aware that we should both have a pretty high sex drive at these ages. Now I am lucky to have sex once every other week (unless we have had a few drinks, which is not frequent at all). I know he is not cheating, he is w/ me every moment he is not working. We are at home, cooking, watching TV, laying in bed (obviously nothing else) then he falls asleep. I have tried talking to him about this in a joking manner - like if he does playfully fondle my breast, I say watch out they may have cob webs on them! And he laughs. Other things are said to try and get a point across, but to no avail. We have talked seriously, and he has said anytime you want it, you know you can get it. Well, I have made attempts, to no avail. I get refused. I am SO frustrated right now. I do masterbate every so often - when he is not home, but I would still like to make love to HIM. I do not know if he masterbates, the only time I know he could would be in the shower. Do you think something is wrong here or is there another way that I should approach this subject? I am at a complete loss on this one. I have never had any problems w/ someone not wanting to have sex w/ me. I feel he is turned off my me and that is why he won't make love to me.

You have to talk to him and let him know what your wants and needs are and find out what his are.
The best way to approach a problem is directly. Making subtle jokes obviously goes over his head. He says when you want it, you can have it, but if you attempt, he ignores or rejects you.
How about a direct question......."WHAT is going on here? We used to have sex X number of times a week, and now it's down to X. WHY?"
If you want answers, you have to ask the questions.
Age has nothing to do with libido. A 20 year old can have no interest in sex, and a 60 year old can be highly sexed. Many things can affect libido......health, medications, emotions, depression, stress, hormones, all kinds of things. Talk to him.