Sex Position?

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Registered: 09-12-2006
Sex Position?
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Tue, 09-12-2006 - 3:30pm
I have just started having sex with my boyfriend and he wants me to go on top, but i don't know what to do! Please help, any suggestions?
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: hot4you1985
Tue, 09-12-2006 - 6:18pm

It will depend on a lot of things, one being his size. If he's long, you will not be able to literally drop your weight on him and grind your clitoris against him. It also depends on how his penis curves (some curve upward, some downward, and some sideways........;-)) The best thing to do is do is experiment with what feels good.

You can try straddling on your feet for ease of mobility, but you may tire quickly (unless you are in good shape and do squats daily); you can also try straddling on your knees and again depending on his size, you can lift gently up and down, press down and grind back and forth and round and round, and you can also (and this is good if he's long), lean forward slightly while on your knees and move back and forward on him (if you are a kisser, you'll love this one). Reverse cowgirl and leaning back will also depend on his penis. Some erect penii are on a 45 degree upward angle and just will not cooperate with certain positions. tee hee

The best thing to do is just experiment. Sex is all about the journey -- not the destination. You never know, you may find something that someone advised against (or didn't work for them), as the most satisfying and wild sensation you could have imagined(for you). Just enjoy it. Like life, don't take sex so seriously. Learn to have fun and not "worry" that you are doing anything wrong. It will suck ;-) the life out of it (sex). One of the best compliments I ever received from a man was "You 'make love' in fun" (The song "You Make Lovin Fun" by Fleetwood Mac was playing at the time) -- and he made sure that I understood exactly what he meant.

Just tell your bf to let you know if you hurt him in any way, this way you will not have to "worry" (no news is good news). Then just enjoy and ask him for feedback (or read his responses). Do not think that you are a failure or you are doing something wrong if you do not get much pleasure from this position (nor him)...it's not a given. There are plenty of men and women who have a hard time orgasming from this position or do not get much out of it.

I could never understand why people think that they need to do EVERYTHING "right" the first time, as though it's the last time they are going to have sex. It takes time, and that's what is so fun about sex, learning about each other's likes and dislikes.

Just smile...relax....and stop worrying about "performing." If you are having sex with your boyfriend, you should feel free to be who you are and trust him enough to love you "warts" and all. Laugh at yourself...and he'll laugh with you.

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