Sex Prob

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Registered: 07-09-2005
Sex Prob
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Sat, 07-09-2005 - 12:56am
me and my boyfriend have been going for a year and 4 moths now.
he was my first acrtually, but whenever we have sex....i dont feel anything !! and he also cant ejaculate with sex. we both prefer oral.
is there something wrong ??


Edited 7/9/2005 1:25 am ET ET by xdannix
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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: xdannix
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 2:15am

Ok, first of all, you both prefer oral....THAT is sex. If that satisfies both of you, then you're both happy, and there's nothing wrong. Everyone is different, and everyone likes different things.

When you say you have no feelings during sex, you mean intercourse. That is also normal....because most women don't have "feelings" or orgasms from intercourse alone....that's because there is very little feeling inside your vagina, and because your vagina isn't your main sex organ, your clitoris is. That's why you like oral sex because you're getting clitoral stimulation. You can also get it during intercourse by him or you stimulating the clitoris at the same time. Different positions can also stimulate it....like woman on top.

If he can't finish during intercourse, then he can do it himself afterward, or you can do it manually or orally.

Don't worry about what anyone else does. If what you're doing works for you, that's all that counts. Enjoy it.

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Registered: 01-11-2004
In reply to: xdannix
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 10:49am

Hi xdannix:

1-The vagina has few nerve endings beyound the first 2 inches.
2-8 out of 10 women orgasm thru manual or oral stimulation of the CLITORIS; NOT sexual intercourse.
3-A woman may take 30 minutes to get sexually aroused. A guy should learn to satisfy his woman 1st!
4-Sex should be about being close (physically and emotionally) to your sex partner. ORGASM SHOULD NOT be the goal of sex.
5-Your guy probably has learned to ejaculate thru masturbation. He will have to retrain his sexual RESPONSE to ejacualte thru sexual intercourse.

Mac

 

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: xdannix
Sun, 07-10-2005 - 11:07am
If there's one thing you should do to have enjoyable sex, its listen to your body. If something doesn't feel good, switch to something else. If something feels good, go with it. Don't make anything goal and stop comparing yourself to other; just enjoy sex for what it is. The more you feel that you HAVE to do it this way, the more you're bound to fail. It may even feel different from one day to the next even if you replicate what you did the day before. So, if you follow your body, you cannot go wrong. No two people are alike and that's why it's important that you take commands from YOUR own body. If you both prefer oral, then why not do oral? There are no rules when it comes to sex....just follow your instincts.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )