Is sex for procreation alone?

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Registered: 08-25-2007
Is sex for procreation alone?
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Sat, 08-25-2007 - 7:58pm

My wife of 5 years thinks so. We have only made love when we wanted to have our two children. I used to think that this would change. But it has not.

I have a very high libido. I try to channelise by working very hard at my job, at home, with children, cleaning, cooking, washing, anything that keeps me occupied. Yet sometimes I get aroused, but feel guilty when I masturbate.

I dont want to destroy my family or hurt the innocent children. Are there any chemicals that can reduce the libido? Because sub-consciously I do resent my wife.

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Tue, 09-18-2007 - 5:32pm
humpdaddy states:

"your wife is being very selfish. All she has to do is change her belief and she can change her attitude, it won`t being selfish"

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Tue, 09-18-2007 - 6:32pm

Number one you got my quote wrong, I know you meant to say " it won`t be easy."... Number two I know of no religion where sex is for procreation only. Not moslem, not jewish, not budda. It is her own belief ,I believe. She is being selfish, whether it is on purpose or not..


You said," 1st of all, you just can't change religious beliefs like you might change dietary or spending habits".... Sure you can. Many people grew up 'believing" sex is for marriage only, only to have premarital sex, and plenty of it. I am a firm believer that anything a person believes and be undone through conscience thought and conviction...... Ask many rape victims who at one time thought they would never have a sex life again. They can, but it is easier for some than for others.




Edited 9/18/2007 7:00 pm ET by humpdaddy
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 5:39pm
I stand corrected on misqouting you and
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Thu, 09-20-2007 - 7:59am
I do agree it will take more than a strong will for her to change. The notion that something needs to be changed comes first. Therein lies the problem. I do not know where she got the idea that sex is only

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