sex question need help

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sex question need help
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Mon, 09-11-2006 - 1:19am
hello i have a question, i dont no alot about sex and me and my boyfreind have been together for 5 years now hes the only one i have ever had sex with and we have always used protection. and have only had a condom break once and i didnt get pregnet, but for the last 3 weeks we have been having unprtected sex and my question is, is can i get pregnet if he pulls out before he cums, can the stuff that comes out before he cums get me pregnet, im just really scared because he has came in me 3 times now and i dont no what to do im not on birth controll and there is no way i can take care of a baby im usually more carefull then this i dont no whats gotten into me well thanx for listening any advice would be great thanx
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 1:35am

yes, you can get pregant if you have intercourse without birth control even if he does not come inside of you. there is sperm in pre-cum (the little bit that comes out before he ejaculates). why are you risking getting pregnant? 'i don't know why i am doing this' is not a good answer. it won't help you when you find yourself pregnant. if you really want to have sex without a condom, get on the pill or some other form of birth control other than condoms.

as for why you are doing this, is there some part of you that wants to get pregnant? and if so, why?

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 4:20am
YES! You can still become pregnant even if he uses the withdraw method. Sperm will still seep out before he actually ejaculates. Not to mention the fact that they will remain alive for quite some time in your body just waiting for an egg to make an appearance. You need to stop having sex and see a doctor right away. You are playing with fire.
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 6:10am

If you are not physically, emotionally, or financially ready to have a baby then do not use the withdrawl method, the method that you are currently using. Depending on what statistics you want to believe regarding the withdrawl method the withdrawl method has upto a 50% failure rate. Which means there is a 50% chance everytime you use it that you will get pregnant. At this point I would not get all worried about it but would strongly urge you to use condoms until you can find a more practical method.

Personally if I was not ready for a baby I would use condoms or birth control pills. If you do not want to use something on a regular basis then I would look at something like depo shots or norplant. The effects of the depo shots, if I remember correctly, last for 3 months and norplant is effective for five years. Given your age I probably would not recommend norplant as you have to have them surgically removed when you want to get pregnant and it can take a while after they are removed to actually get pregnant.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 7:45am

You know you can't take care of a baby now so why in the world are you not


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Registered: 03-15-2006
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 9:56am
Hi,
Just as everyone else has stated, you still CAN get pregnant by using the withdraw method. I understand there are times when you just get caught up in the moment and don't want to slow down to have your guy slip on a condom, but think about it, the consequences are going to last a lifetime. Babies are a wonderful thing, when you are READY for one!
You defintly need to use some form of birth control. If he doesn't want to wear a condom, you need to go on the pill. Another method, that I have used before is the Morning After Pill. This must be taken within 48 hours of having unproctected sex. I got my pills through planned parenting. They can have side effects though, as I knew people who became very sick after taking them. (Throwing up, etc.) I was fine, but everyone is different.
Best of luck and BECAREFUL!
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 10:21am

In this day and age, there is no excuse for saying "I don't know a lot about sex". You're capable of posting on a message board, so you should be very capable of looking up whatever information you need.

You know enough to know that you can get pregnant without using some form of birth control, and you say you don't WANT to get pregnant.....so why are you taking the risk of unprotected sex?

If you or your b/f don't want to use condoms, then go see your doctor, or Planned Parenthood, or a Free Clinic, and get yourself on some form of birth control. Don't be scared off by the last poster about getting sick. There are MILLIONS of women on birth control of some sort, and very few of them have any problems with it. There are so many kinds of female birth control, if one kind bothers you, you try another kind.

If you don't want to get pregnant, then it's up to YOU to make sure you don't. Don't use the excuse that "you don't know why".....because you do know why. And don't think that if you get pregnant, you will have the father in your life forever. The only guaranteed thing about pregnancy is that YOU will be responsible for your child's life for the next 18 years, and maybe more. There are already too many unwanted, neglected and abused children in this world. Don't make another one!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 12:34pm

The morning after pill is meant as an *emergency* contraceptive, it's not meant to be used as a means of


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Mon, 09-11-2006 - 3:08pm
UM YEAH. get on the pill, use condoms each and every time. you're lucky you haven't gotten pregnant yet. but, keep this up and you will. you keep bringing up pregnancy, but have you given any thought to catching an STD like Herpes or HIV? Neither of these have a cure. wake up girl, if you're boyfriend isn't going to be the responsible one, then you have to be. someone has to.....