Sex in the shower?

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Registered: 08-12-2007
Sex in the shower?
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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 11:27pm
After the other night, my guy is SO anxious to try new things all the time, which is fine with me. We have the house to ourselves tomorrow night, and he's been talking about showering together. Again, fine with me. Any tips or suggestions for having sex in the shower/bath. Also, will the water have any affect on the strength or performance of the condom? You were all so helpful last time, and I'm looking forward to the advice now too.. :) Thanks in advance ..
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 7:54am

Sex in the shower or bath can be a lot of fun, but you might have some problems with height if you have a great difference there. Especially standing in the shower, make sure you are not on a slippery surface. If your shower is in the tub, sometimes putting one foot up on the edge of the tub can make a slight adjustment in height too.

The water won't affect the condom; however, there may be a lack of lubrication. Water will wash away the natural lubrication for both of you. While you can use a lube, make sure it's safe for use with a condom. You could try to put the condom on out of the way of the water flow, and hopefully it has lubrication as well. Once you get started (him inside of you) then the water won't affect lubrication for either of you.

Of course, cleaning each other in the shower or bath makes foreplay awesome!

If you use the bath, try adding bubbles. They create their own sensations and add to the fun. The bubble solution also makes a great lube if you want to try having breast sex in the tub too. Just have fun and experiment. Even if you can't get intercourse to work there, you will have a lot of fun getting ready for it!



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Registered: 08-12-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 10:25am
Thanks for the advice!! I am very eager to try it out, and I know he is too. I now have another problem.., shortly after I posted the original message, my BF called me and informed me that instead of staying in tonight, he wants to go out and take me to a strip club. He thinks we would both have a lot of fun and enjoy ourselves. Now while I do agree with him, I'm still not sure how comfortable I would be going. I've never been to a strip club before and I don't know how many females that go with their guys, or even girls that go by themselves? And even so, I would have no clue what to wear, and proper etiquette for a female in a strip club. haha But, I do agree it would be a lot of fun, but at the same time I feel really nervous about it. Any suggestions?


Edited 8/17/2007 10:28 am ET by dreamergrl610
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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 11:36am

I have gone to a strip club with my DH a few times, and found it enjoyable. If nothing else, people watching is a blast!

You're not the one on stage, so you can wear anything that you feel comfortable in. Since it's a date and you want it to lead to sex, I would probably wear an outfit that I would go clubbing in.

Couples usually get a lot of attention at strip clubs, so prepare yourself for that. You might want a drink or two to relax, but I wouldn't recommend over indulging. A lot of people do things they might not normally do under those circumstances, and being in a strip club will give you plenty of opportunity. Maybe talk with your BF before hand about what you want from this experience.

Do you want either of you to have lap dances? As a couple, or individually? You will get a lot of offers from the dancers, so set your ground rules before you go there, and before you start partying.



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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 12:51pm
thanks SO much for the advice, we already talked and sorted things out as far as what we will and won't be doing tonight..I've decided to go and just enjoy the night.. BUT I told him that if for some reason we go and I don't feel comfortable, we're leaving. And he totally understands. But, as our relationship grows and as we grow as a couple, we love to try new things, and see what we do or don't like. Something like this, I would never try on my own. I'm so glad that we can both try it as a couple, and I'm even more glad I have the boards to come to for advice. Thanks again! I will give an update sometime tomorrow !!
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Registered: 02-17-2007
Fri, 08-17-2007 - 10:54pm
I love going to the strip clubs with my man! I just wish we had them on Maui. Anyway, as far as the shower sex, just make sure you either have lube available or avoid water in that area. Like Misty said, it tends to wash away during the act. Can't wait for the update!

 

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Sat, 08-18-2007 - 2:53am
water will wash all the lube off the condom so be careful