Sex - Small Penis Problems

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Registered: 12-10-2005
Sex - Small Penis Problems
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Sat, 12-10-2005 - 3:56pm
Hi, my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time last night, but he has quite a small penis and for 1 I could barely feel him, and for 2 he kept 'slipping out'. Please help me, give me tips, positions anything. I realise our first time would be sketchy, but I want sex to be good for us. Please help me?!?!
x H x
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 12-10-2005 - 4:19pm
The two of you have to experiment with different positions and see what works for the two of you.

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Registered: 08-19-2005
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 7:35am
My bf is small, also. The best position for us is for me to be on top. I usually only grind my hips, because any in and out motion is out of the question. I see all of these other posters hollar that "size does not matter!" Well, when the penis is only a couple of inches long, with the girth of an finger, it makes it hard to have intercourse the "traditional" way. We still have not found a position that will prevent his penis from slipping out.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 10:44am

Hey H!

You're in good company with that issue, so here's a few links that'll prove it and hopefully help you as well:

My guy's Penis is too small
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638355_674440,00.html

My husband's penis is small
http://magazines.ivillage.com/redbook/experts/sex/qas/0,,284457_431496,00.html

Two Solutions for Small Situations
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexconcerns/0,,99bj,00.html

Touchy Topic
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/men/menu/articles/0,,426378_676602,00.html

I agree for the most part with the info/advise in these articles. Always important to remember that intercourse is only a of sex, not THE part of it. Enjoy the foreplay/tantrics and all of the sexual experience...no more focusing on whether or not intercourse will be perfect. As I've mentioned many times on this board, Mrs. Para & I enjoy sex whether we have intercourse or not...just too much to enjoy to focus on just that one aspect of it. Just my experience with her on it.

 

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Registered: 08-19-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:57am

Thanks para! It is so good to see someone give a decent response. Any other time this subject comes up it seems like there are a handful of the same know-it-alls getting up on their soap box hollaring that size doesn't matter.

You are right when you say that sex is more than just intercourse. Our foreplay is amazing. But I still miss the feeling of being "full". And I still miss the in & out motion of intercourse. These sensations are all void with a smaller penis. Like I posted earlier, the most that I can do is get on top and rock back and forth, and if I happen to rock too far to the side, out he comes. Once again, thanks para!

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Registered: 01-13-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 2:20pm
My boyfriend of 14 months who I hope to marry one day is also not too big in size. His girth is bigger than I would expect for his length (if that makes any sense). Anyways, it has taken quite some time to find a spot to help me orgasm with him. One position that works for us is he is on top but I have to keep my legs up in the air and somehow when I lift my bum up more, that’s when he really hits my spot. Sometimes, I put my legs up against his chest so then he can dictate how much he can move in and out. So my suggestion is, try putting some pillows under your bum and let him on top so he can move in and out even if just a little. Just to throw my opinion in here, just the intimacy to have with someone that you love so much is worth it all. My ex-husband was extremely large but I will take my “smaller” boyfriend who treats me 100% better anytime! Don’t get frustrated; just keep on working at it, as it has taken me this long to really know how to get full satisfaction with him and without faking it.
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Tue, 12-13-2005 - 2:36pm

Gee, I'm assuming that I'm one of those "know-it-alls" that you're referring to, since I have never felt that size was an issue. Too many more important factors make up good sex than just that.

But since I've only given MY opinion on the subject, which is certainly my and the other "same old know-it-all's" right to do so, it doesn't bother me a bit when someone disagrees with it. So, go ahead, disagree all you like.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 8:48pm

Didn't you say you only had intercourse with him once?


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Registered: 04-04-2005
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 12:08am

"My boyfriend of 14 months who I hope to marry one day is also not too big in size. His girth is bigger than I would expect for his length (if that makes any sense). Anyways, it has taken quite some time to find a spot to help me orgasm with him. One position that works for us is he is on top but I have to keep my legs up in the air and somehow when I lift my bum up more, that’s when he really hits my spot."

Sam it sounds like your bf and I are very much alike - I'm thicker than one would expect for my "not too big" length too. And like you and your bf, my lover and I have found the position you mentioned to be best for reaching her pleasure spot too. It's still NOT easy for me to reach it even with this position - so the pillow under her bum helps.

To the original poster - keep trying - you will find what works for you two. Gently nudge him into working on his oral sex skills - for us smaller sized guys that helps level the playing field alot - or so I'm told. I kiss my lady love for hours and she purrs like a happy kitty. It also helps if he works on his fingering skills and getting to know your clitoris REALLY well. Now does that sound like some fun homework?
blonde

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:47am
All I can say is that two of the best positions for a smaller package are doggystyle and the woman on top. These two positions allows him to penatrate you deeper. But you can not get full pleasure from that you can always have him pleasure you other ways.