Sex - Small Penis Problems
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Sex - Small Penis Problems
| Sat, 12-10-2005 - 3:56pm |
Hi, my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time last night, but he has quite a small penis and for 1 I could barely feel him, and for 2 he kept 'slipping out'. Please help me, give me tips, positions anything. I realise our first time would be sketchy, but I want sex to be good for us. Please help me?!?!
x H x
x H x

Hey H!
You're in good company with that issue, so here's a few links that'll prove it and hopefully help you as well:
My guy's Penis is too small
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638355_674440,00.html
My husband's penis is small
http://magazines.ivillage.com/redbook/experts/sex/qas/0,,284457_431496,00.html
Two Solutions for Small Situations
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexconcerns/0,,99bj,00.html
Touchy Topic
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/men/menu/articles/0,,426378_676602,00.html
I agree for the most part with the info/advise in these articles. Always important to remember that intercourse is only a of sex, not THE part of it. Enjoy the foreplay/tantrics and all of the sexual experience...no more focusing on whether or not intercourse will be perfect. As I've mentioned many times on this board, Mrs. Para & I enjoy sex whether we have intercourse or not...just too much to enjoy to focus on just that one aspect of it. Just my experience with her on it.
C H A R A C T E R
Thanks para! It is so good to see someone give a decent response. Any other time this subject comes up it seems like there are a handful of the same know-it-alls getting up on their soap box hollaring that size doesn't matter.
You are right when you say that sex is more than just intercourse. Our foreplay is amazing. But I still miss the feeling of being "full". And I still miss the in & out motion of intercourse. These sensations are all void with a smaller penis. Like I posted earlier, the most that I can do is get on top and rock back and forth, and if I happen to rock too far to the side, out he comes. Once again, thanks para!
Gee, I'm assuming that I'm one of those "know-it-alls" that you're referring to, since I have never felt that size was an issue. Too many more important factors make up good sex than just that.
But since I've only given MY opinion on the subject, which is certainly my and the other "same old know-it-all's" right to do so, it doesn't bother me a bit when someone disagrees with it. So, go ahead, disagree all you like.
Didn't you say you only had intercourse with him once?
"My boyfriend of 14 months who I hope to marry one day is also not too big in size. His girth is bigger than I would expect for his length (if that makes any sense). Anyways, it has taken quite some time to find a spot to help me orgasm with him. One position that works for us is he is on top but I have to keep my legs up in the air and somehow when I lift my bum up more, that’s when he really hits my spot."
Sam it sounds like your bf and I are very much alike - I'm thicker than one would expect for my "not too big" length too. And like you and your bf, my lover and I have found the position you mentioned to be best for reaching her pleasure spot too. It's still NOT easy for me to reach it even with this position - so the pillow under her bum helps.
To the original poster - keep trying - you will find what works for you two. Gently nudge him into working on his oral sex skills - for us smaller sized guys that helps level the playing field alot - or so I'm told. I kiss my lady love for hours and she purrs like a happy kitty. It also helps if he works on his fingering skills and getting to know your clitoris REALLY well. Now does that sound like some fun homework?
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