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sex stamina help!
| Thu, 01-26-2006 - 7:23pm |
when it comes to sex, my boyfriend can go for hours. hes always telling me how he wants me for hours and hours and id love to fulfill his disire but i get sore very easy and just sex isnt that arousing for me. what can i do to keep myself into it for as long as he is?

There's no reason that you should have to endure "hours and hours" of sex. Our bodies weren't made for that. Are you sure this isn't just a "coverup" for an ejaculation problem?
You need to talk to him and TELL him that you can't take it. That you get sore, and it's NOT fun after the first 15-20 minutes. And that you're not going to participate in that any more.
In a good relationship, you're not there solely to please him. It's supposed to be mutual, BOTH of you are supposed to enjoy it, and YOU are not enjoying it.
What do you mean by "JUST sex" isn't that arousing? Do you mean intercourse? Is that all he does.....jump on you for intercourse? What about foreplay? It's possible that this guy just doesn't understand women, or their bodies, and maybe he needs some education in that area. Start teaching him! Most women (like80%) are NOT all that aroused by intercourse alone, nor do they have orgasms from intercourse alone. Our vaginas aren't made for that......the clitoris is your main sexual organ after your brain, and if he thinks that it's all about intercourse, he has a lot to learn. It may be for him, but it's not for most women, and he needs to be set straight.
By saying "just sex isn't that arousing for me" are you referring to just intercourse?
If so, then ask him for some manual stimulation to go along with the vaginal stimulation. Most women require direct clitoral stimulation before and during intercourse to become aroused and to orgasm so asking him (or you could do it yourself) to provide THAT would go a long way toward making intercourse more arousing for you.
But no matter what you do, no woman is going to be able to endure "hours" of continuous friction and NOT get sore and/or bored. And you shouldn't have to. Like everything else in a relationship, he needs to be willing to compromise on this or he's risking turning you off intercourse completely.
Talk with him and let him know that you get tired and sore and you would like to save the loooooong sessions for an occasional treat.