Sex still hurts me
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Sex still hurts me
| Tue, 07-19-2005 - 11:13pm |
I am 37 years old and have a 20-month-old son. (by C-section) Conceiving him was no fun, either. My DH and I would like a second child, but to me the sex is torture and I just want to get PG ASAP cause it's so uncomfortable for me! Even if it doesn't hurt, it just doesn't feel good and sometimes there's burning afterwards. I don't know if it's the friction, the lube (which I HAVE to use!) or stress. Does anyone else out there still feel like a virgin? (and not in a good way?)

Did either of your doctors mention Vaginismus since one said it's caused by you being nervous and the other suggested a dilator?
I don't have solid at all, amym, but I'm hoping my questions will spark some ideas for others to respond on that may help ya.
20 month old?, VERY stressful. That stress alone is enough to cause intercourse to be uncomfortable for many women out there, you just may be one of them. I wonder if you enjoy sex anymore BEFORE the intercourse begins. Understanding of course that lube is primarily a physical and not necessarily a for you being naturally comfortable and ready/eager for intercourse. Something to be mindful of, often overlooked, so I don't feel bad raising reminder of it for anyone who can benefit.
For all you know, there just might be some more experience on the Sexual Health message board that can help you with this too:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhgensex
Please keep us posted, never know if one of the readers around here could benefit.
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