Sex Talking/Dirty Talking

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Sex Talking/Dirty Talking
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Thu, 10-16-2008 - 4:36pm

Can anyone help? My partner love to talk dirty to me over MSN or texts but I am speechless when he wants me to talk dirty to him. I have no problems talking dirty during actual sex, but when it's me in my kitchen and he's not there.... lol I've read the articles here on ivillage and they don't really explain much. I guess I just kinda feel like a fool talking about what I'm "doing" to him when he's not here. I mean phone sex is ok, cause at least I can hear his reaction. Can anyone help? What can I type/text? How can I feel less foolish? TIA for anything!

Anov










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Registered: 10-14-2008
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 4:50pm

I am not so sure I can help, but I can comiserate!


I don't worry s much about seeming foolish, believe me you aren't foolish either, it's just hard to put yourself in the mood without the whole package, if yoiu know what I mean!


I guess it just seems so vacuous, it's like pretending to be someone you aren't. I have the imagination, and the vocabulary, it just really doesn't flick my switch. Better to be there I say, save up the imagination and the effort for the skin to skin!

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 7:20pm

Thanks for your reply. It's not that I can't get in the mood. I love "listening" to him talk dirty while on MSN or text. I will even respond to him, but I just can't seem to get into the me starting and keeping up with the talking.

Anov










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Registered: 04-17-2006
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 7:42pm
My DW and I have added more talk to our love making. It seems to pick up after a martini for her. What is easiest and most effective is simply describing what is working and what you would like to experience more. "That feels good - keep doing that - I like that" etc.
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Registered: 08-22-2008
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 11:25pm

Ever since my dh figured out text messaging the dirty talk is constant!

Redhead
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Registered: 10-28-2006
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 12:43am

Hi there


well i always feel little nervous an all befor he calls.....so i think about us making love befor he calls...get myself excited so that way the thoughts are already going.....then if i start out with the converstation i explain best i can what i would love to be doing to him at that moment....just walking him through it....untill he starts talking back.....think of a fantasy u would like an then describe it to'em....an say u don't have a fantasy well discribe how you'd like it to be if he was there.....u cud also tell him to tell you how'd he'd like for u to touch yourself.... also ask what he'd do to you if he was there......to help things get going


like when he's talking to you......you could say..


spank me


Take advantage...


ooh i want that.........


mmmm

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 1:18am

This is the THIRD post of mine that has gotten deleted in the last few days.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 7:03am

Welcome to the board, Anov.

Sometimes it's easiest to learn by example. Does he talk dirty to you and tell you what he's doing? See if you can get him to show you what he means by doing this himself .... and be sure to react to what you're hearing, what he's saying and what you're visualizing. I think that will help you when it's your turn.

The part, I think, that would be hot is creating a visual for him. By learning how his voice and actions (alone) can conjure up a visual for you can help you know how to do the same for him.





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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 7:05am
Welcome to the board, Tigger .... it's great to see you over here!




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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 7:14am
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This is the THIRD post of mine that has gotten deleted in the last few days. I guess someone at Ivillage has a hard on for me and not the pleasant kind."


? deleted ? It's still here. Are you somehow loosing it during posting?

If you post a message that gets deleted by the Moderators, then you will see a space between messages that reads "That message deleted".

I do know that if you're using IE, and you type your message but use the back arrow to edit it during review, it will erase all that you have written.

If you're having some other kind of problem with posting, let me know, and I'll see if I can try to help.




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Registered: 02-17-2007
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 12:24pm
ouch

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