Sex Toys

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Sex Toys
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Tue, 12-13-2005 - 1:35am

Hey all,

Since you were all so helpful last time-and since I first logged on here I've been spending a surprising amount of time reading others posts-I figured you would have more helpful suggestions.

I want a vibrator. I want it for my own personal use, and to spice up the bedroom. However, my bf feels very threatened by this. He feels that if I get one, then I won't want him anymore-cause I won't "need" him. How can I relax him, and let him know that this will not take away from our time, nor my "need" of him?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: sexiesweet
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 6:48am
Let your boyfriend see your vibrator right away. Be sure to have the toy ready to use. Let your boyfriend turn it on and have him explore it with you. When he sees how the vibrator can make him benefit as you get turned on by the results he I think will like it more to come. Always be open with him and include him.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: sexiesweet
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 10:28am

You don't NEED him now, you WANT him. We can please ourselves without a partner. Remind him of that.

Ask him if HIS masturbation keeps him from wanting sex with you. Might help him to understand a little better. You just can't compare an inanimate (or even animate) object to a warm responsive human being!

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Registered: 12-14-2005
In reply to: sexiesweet
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:59am
The best thing to do is let him use it on you the first time. Let him see how excited and so forth it gets you and then let him reep the benfets from him. Let him know that it can get you all rared up for him and that you can both enjoy it. Plus it doesn't hurt to get a small one so he doesn't feel threatened by size. Let him know that it is just a way to spice up the bedroom. And for god sakes tell him to stop being so insecure nothing can replace a good romp in the sake with the one you love!