Sex Twice-One Right After the Other?

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Registered: 04-26-2004
Sex Twice-One Right After the Other?
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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 3:42pm
How normal is it for a guy to have an orgasm and then want to do it again immediately? He pleases me first (orally) then we have intercourse. To be honest, after that, I'm done. I'm either tired or just want to do other things. I'm content with one and find it very difficult to get aroused again immediately. The only way he likes to be pleased is through intercourse so I can't try other things. The second time takes a while too, sometimes a long time and I'm fairly dry by this point. This is really irritating to my skin, so much so that I've bled many times. He thrusts really fast and hard and a couple times popped out and slammed into me (ouch!). I've even had to see my doctor a few times because the irritation and discomfort were so bad. Last night I finally told him no, I didn't want to have sex a second time. He actually got mad. It's not like he has a strong sex drive because it seems he can go days without it, but the day he wants it, he wants it 2 times in a row. Is this common?
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 3:53pm
Not that wierd ... if bf hasn't seen me for a couple of days, he almost always does this -- in his case, he generally wants to first cum inside me then the next one orally/facially. Then he's toast and often goes right to sleep. ;-) To get him to have #2, you have to start stimulating again within a couple/few minutes of his first orgasm ... if he goes soft, it will be quite a while before he's ready to orgasm again. I guess guys can sort of feel when their tank is still partially full.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 3:54pm

That would depend on the guy.


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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 08-22-2004 - 6:42pm
I think that it's reasonably normal especially if the guy is young. Most guys go soft and need 10 or 20 minutes before they can get hard again or feel much like it but sometimes you can keep going straight away. It was quite common for me in my teens to be ready to go after a couple of minutes but now it takes 10-20 minutes and a little TLC before I'm ready. It always takes longer to orgasm the second time too.

You could try getting some lubricant if you're getting dry. Even though you say that your guy needs intercourse to get off, I'd seriously reconsider the other options like oral or manual for the second time. If it hurts enough for you to ask the Doctor, and you bleed then it's not fun for you. Maybe he should take stock of what he's doing and try to make love to you more gently and try to not 'pound' hard into you?

Your guy shouldn't get mad at you either. Sex is about two people and if something is hurting one of them then the other should be more considerate. Even if you don't find a way of making intercourse comfortable the second time then the two of you should find a way to compromise - he may just have to settle for a handjob or a blowjob, or he might even have to take matters into his own hands and masturbate. It might not be exactly what he wants but you don't want pain either. It's not right that you have to put up with pain and anger.