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Sex with a virgin
| Sun, 05-02-2004 - 6:24pm |
I post all of the time on the virginity board and I think this might be a better place to get some advice...
I am 27 and a virgin(by choice, not for religious purposes, I am just waiting for love).
I am dating a guy who is 30, and divorced, and, obviously, not a virgin. I am very ready to have sex with him...I know he is the right guy and it is the right time. I told him I am a virgin, and that I want to have sex with him. The problem is that I am nervous because I am embarrased to have no sexual experience at my age. I am concerned that when we have sex that he will be dissapointed because I am not a sex-expert. He is a great guy, very understanding and kind, so I fear that he would not tell me if he were unhappy with our sex life. I care about him and I want him to be happy.
So I would like to know, from a man's perspective, is it a bad thing or a good thing to have sex with a virgin? Would most guys prefer a woman with more experience? Should I just ask him about this? I will appreciate any advice, thanks.
I am 27 and a virgin(by choice, not for religious purposes, I am just waiting for love).
I am dating a guy who is 30, and divorced, and, obviously, not a virgin. I am very ready to have sex with him...I know he is the right guy and it is the right time. I told him I am a virgin, and that I want to have sex with him. The problem is that I am nervous because I am embarrased to have no sexual experience at my age. I am concerned that when we have sex that he will be dissapointed because I am not a sex-expert. He is a great guy, very understanding and kind, so I fear that he would not tell me if he were unhappy with our sex life. I care about him and I want him to be happy.
So I would like to know, from a man's perspective, is it a bad thing or a good thing to have sex with a virgin? Would most guys prefer a woman with more experience? Should I just ask him about this? I will appreciate any advice, thanks.

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don't worry so much about it, just read up on the basics and communicate with your partner -- tell him what feels good to you and ask him what feels good for him.
a great sight is www.sexuality.org.
I'm not a guy, but I'll give you my thoughts anyway.
Good luck and remember, we were all virgins once.
First of all, you have to relax. Take a deep breath and make sure that giving your virginity to this guy isn't going to be something that you'll look back on and regret. Remaining a virgin for as long as you have is noble and rare....if this guy isn't going to appreciate it, TRUST ME, I know a dozen guys here that would LOVE to date you!
Secondly, I want you to look at your hand. That, my dear friend, is what most single guys have as a sexual partner. ANYTHING that you do in response to something he is doing is going to be pleasurable (save biting, whipping, and sexual accupuncture). While I'm an accountant, not a sexologist, I do know that the majority of pleasure that comes from a sexual encounter is emotional and mental. If your S.O. is turned on, it will feel good.
Third, I thought I'd throw you a bone - no pun intended - and give you a few "hints" that might give you some confidence while you're baring yourself...
* Don't just lie there. Men hate that. Be responsive. If he's rubbing your left boob and you like that, tell him "I like that". If he's smacking your hiney and you don't like that try gently at first, move his hand away or say "I like it better when you rub my left boob".
* Don't be shy about your body. If you feel comfortable enough to give this chico your virginity, then you should feel comfortable enough with your body to let him gaze at it and touch it. Sex with someone that has to keep the lights off and clothes on is no fun.
* Don't be afraid to be on top. It's not hard to be there...make sure all pieces are in the right places and just move your hips. It really is that easy at first.
Sex is something that we do naturally. Do you see an ivillage for rabbits?? NO! They don't need help humpin', they just do it a lot! So Yeah, your girlfriends tell stories about how good their man is in bed, and yes, I wll admit that some people are "better" than others...but those people made me feel sexy and wanted, which made their ever move intensified.
Good luck, don't freak out, WEAR A CONDOM, and keep us posted!
Chica!
You have the wrong idea of what "experienced" means. Being a good lover has nothing to do with experience. You can be with 100 men, and STILL be lousy, and the same goes for men. Just because he's been with other women, doesn't mean he knows all there is to know about sex, and he might know very little. (I hope that's not true, for your sake!)
What it takes to be a good lover, and a good partner is ENTHUSIASM first and foremost, willingness to learn, openness to new things, and the desire to make HIM happy. It also takes the ability to communicate, and not only to ask what HE likes, but tell him what YOU like, too. Believe it or not, with every new partner, you have to learn all over again......because we're ALL different, have different likes and dislikes.
Sorry to say, but as the other poster mentioned, think what he usually has for a partner....his hand...no matter what you do or don't do, you've got to be an improvement on THAT, lol For most men, all it takes is a willing partner, and a vagina, and they're happy. Anything beyond that is a bonus!
I'm glad to hear that a 27 yers girl still virgin that some thing good
in my calture girls they have to keep there virgintiy till marrage its religious
issue otherwise they are in deeeeeeeeeeep problem no body will married them unless
sh is divorced.
ofcourse my wife was virgin when we married but i was not!!!!!!! i had no problem whith her beeing virgin even sex with avirgin is more much better(man point of view).and as the days went by she is giving me the best sex i ever had.
and i think your new bf as u said that he is undesstanding and kid he would be very helpfull dont wary but you have to till him to go very slowly with you
enjoy it lol
take care....talal
I agree. And experience doesn't equal good sex. The first guy I was with was more experience than I was and he couldn't ever bring me to orgasm...partially my fault for not telling him when he wasn't doing something I liked (I was young). DH was a virgin when I started dating him. He had no prior experience, and the very first time we had sex he brought me to orgasm. So don't feel like experience is the end all be all. Being willing to learn and open to different things is more important than experience.
RSRosey
Hi Jeep,
I have to comment on your post.
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