Sex vs. Stamina... define better please!

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Sex vs. Stamina... define better please!
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Sun, 06-20-2004 - 10:27am
C'mon Ladies! I have searched the web over and not found the answer to the question... "what is the average duration of a man?" OK... so "average" is up for further definition and so is "duration"... but I think you get the idea that we are NOT counting foreplay and are sticking strickly to penetration and the "motion of the ocean" as it were.

I have seen figures on a poll recently asking for size or stamina, and the stamina figure that I have seen is 20-30 mins...... is THAT all???? Now I am confused.

Is this saying that the 20-30 minute figure is a performance of GOOD stamina? I can understand the concept of the 5 minute cheated feeling, but I never realized in my own experience that "minute man" was a literal naming of the situation.

I guess the bottom line question is where do the guys who can last more than 30 minutes at a time and come 5-6 times in the course of several hours fit into the "stamina" picture? What is too much, what is not enough and what is just right for you individually? And good Lord.... PLEASE tell me what is "average" for the men you have been with. Maybe I need to re-examine my own performance to that of "average".

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Registered: 10-09-2003
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 9:59pm
DH can last anywhere between a few minutes to a little over ten of steady intercourse(depending on what transpired prior). What we do is break it up. If he feels he's getting too close, he withdraws and we do something else, then come back to intercourse. He'll repeat this pattern until he decides that he wants to orgasm. Sometimes he orgasms from intercourse, sometimes he orgasms from the other things we do. But steady intercourse can be anywhere from three minutes to twelve minutes(depending on how aroused he is). Typical sexual sessions last between twenty and forty minutes because we break it up with spontaneity and enjoy the element of surprise. We used to do the oral, manual, foreplay and then finish with intercourse, but I complained. ;-) No seriously, we fell into this pattern on our own. Alternating between oral, manual, and intercourse was something we wanted--both as givers and receivers. If I'm on top and I want to have him in my mouth, I alternate. If I'm on top and want me in his mouth, I alternate(convenient for face straddling).

Intercourse is not the main event, because we both get more out of sporatic doses.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 6:58am
he ejaculated each time tao.

    

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 11:29am
Wow! That's really unusual , especially for a man over 35.

I remember even in my twenties a few times cumming 3-4 times in a day (w/ masturbation)and even then the sensation definitely declined and the third and fourth time were hardly worth the effort. With a woman, I have never ejaculated more than once in a few hours.

While some men, especially young ones, can ejaculate several times , I think it is generally recognized that the path to multiple orgasm for men is by controling ejaculation and orgasming without it. This enables men to have multiple orgasms in a relatively short period similar to the way women do.

taoist.

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Registered: 10-09-2003
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 12:10pm
Although my DH can recover in less than an hour, he doesn't usually ejaculate more than twice in a 24 hour period. He's 48, but it's been this way for many years. We've had sex more than twice in a 24 hour period, but he won't ejaculate.
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Wed, 07-07-2004 - 2:48pm
Yes I agree, Im over 45 and my equiptment works exactly as it did when I was in my early twenties. Maybe my fitness level has something to do with it. My DW told me of a bf she had back in college who was into marathon sex sessions (penetration for an hour or so) and was a lousy lover..He kept changing positions often and never really got into a "grove" so that she could orgasm. Afterwards she was left so sore she couldnt have sex for a couple days and never orgasmed with him from intercource. Stamina doesnt necessarily equate into a man being a good lover. I think any man who can make love 3 or 4 times in an evening AND have orgasms each time is pretty normal. The lucky man is the man who can find a woman who wants to have sex that often in an evening. ;)
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 11:41pm
Good Golly Miss Molly! Then I must be ONE LUCKY MAN!!! Thank you Baby if you are reading this. :-D
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Registered: 06-08-2003
Sun, 07-18-2004 - 11:56am
I just wanted to say hats off to everyone that posted to this message a very good topic something worth reading on these boards.

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