Sex while engaged or serious?

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Registered: 08-02-2004
Sex while engaged or serious?
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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 9:26am

One time many years ago, I was going to college and I went into my bank to do a transaction. There was this very hot young woman there helping me. I couldn't believe how hot she was. Back then I was a little less reserved than I am now and I immediately let me know I was interested in going to dinner or something. She said she was engaged. I told her unless she was actually married, I didn't see that as a problem. Finally, after all my advances, she agreed to go out. I forget now just what we did but we ended up back at my place.

She had a great body after I took her clothes off. Nice size breasts and cute overall body. Anyway, what surprised me a bit was that she didn't want to have intercourse. She said she was saving that for marriage. But she was happy to have oral sex. So we performed oral for each other. It was weird really in a way to have that sort of restriction but at that point, I was horny and willing to live with it. I do remember that she was good and oral and seemed to really get into it. It was almost too bad I couldn't start a real relationship with this woman because she was really nice. But it was nice to have some sex with someone that was involved, yet not married. Not sure I could do it now, but I was more daring then.

Anyone else had a similar situation?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 10:27am

Why would you want a "real" relationship with a woman who had no qualms about cheating on her fiance? And yes, as much as she was trying to be a saint, and save intercourse for marriage, oral sex is CHEATING. Oral sex is really more intimate than intercourse in my book.

And as a young man, you weren't concerned with silly things like her being engaged to someone else, all you were concerned with was "getting some". Hopefully your thinking has matured since then.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 11:17am

No, I haven't. But then, sex for sex sake wasn't my thing anyway. And I was never one to go after a person who was committed to someone else either. Not a turnon for me personally.

Frankly, in your situation, I would have been more concerned that she would give in so easily with just a little pressuring. Could actually have meant that she did that sort of thing all the time. You're lucky that she didn't leave you with a little "dividend" to remember her by, too. Like an STD. And as dakine pointed out. She DID cheat on her fiance', intercourse or not.

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Registered: 08-02-2004
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 1:40am
Yes, it has matured a great deal more. It was a long time ago.
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Registered: 06-20-2006
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 12:51am
Both of you were wrong in that situation. Married, engaged, or dating-if you've made a commitment you should stick to it. She was sleezy no matter what she looked like. Commitment should be respected by both people invoved. A general rule should be to avoid serial killer and commited individuals. they are both dangerous and disrespectfulto mess with.
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Sat, 07-15-2006 - 9:41pm
Manunit, I read the 4 replies and you aren't getting any other juicy stories from "days gone by" from other posters, but you sure are taking the "heat" for seducing an engaged woman. LOL. Actually, she didn't even have to be really seduced. Are you still as good a salesman as you were back in your college days?
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Registered: 12-09-2005
Mon, 07-17-2006 - 12:15pm
Wow... some people are so immature...

                             
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-17-2006 - 2:58pm
I would say it was more a case of a woman NOT being totally in love with her fiance', Gigi!