Sex before you Love?

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Sex before you Love?
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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 5:47pm

Sex before you Love?

I never have sex unless I love him/her.
I will if I am almost certain I do.
I will have sex and then decide if I love him/her afterwards.
I don't care. If they want to, I will.
Not here.

You will be able to change your vote.




Edited 5/27/2007 6:41 pm ET by cherrysweety
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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 5:49pm
For my own vote, I put I only have sex if I love him.
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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 6:29pm

I didn't vote because nothing really fits me.

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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 7:16pm
I'd put myself in the same category as Tish. When DW and I first had sex I liked her well enough, but I was not yet in love with her. That came later.
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Sun, 05-27-2007 - 8:25pm

I voted the last choice, but then I realized it says "If THEY want to I will" which is not true - I thought it said "If I want to I will."

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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 6:51am

I answered "I will have sex and then decide if I love him/her afterwards", but I think it was the answer that was the closest to how I feel.

I'm not deciding about love based on the sex, and I'm not demanding love to have sex. I enjoy sex, and choose to have sex when I want to if meeting someone new. Might be the first time I meet them, may not be a person I'm dating, or it might be further into the relationship.

Of course, now that I'm married, I am committed to having sex with DH only. Even during times in my life of having casual, sexual relationships, I was monogamous.



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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 12:15pm

This is a pretty funny question. I have been dating my gf for a few months and it's just about time for the love word to come out lol. Anyhow, we were having sex last week and she was way into it and I thought maybe the moment had come. She goes:

"I ... LOOOOOOVVVVVE ...
(i'm like, note to self: here it comes man!)
...
...
...
...
HAVING SEX WITH YOU!!!"

She did this totally innocently without realizing what was so very very very funny about it! Anyhow she won massive massive massive brownie points. ;-)