sex with a younger man

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sex with a younger man
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:43am
I am 48 and recently single. One month ago I started dating a much younger man (28) and have never had so much enjoyable sex. During my marriage the sex was OK, but with this guy we have sex two and three times a day. Although he is exhausting, I must admit I look forward to each and every minute. The sex not only lasts for long periods of time, but because his penis is much larger than my x-hubby, I find myself having mutliple orgasms in positions I never even enjoyed before. I sometimes feel a bit guilty about his age, but within a few short minutes in the sack and I forget about all that! Has anyone else had a similar experience.
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 9:50pm
"I guess it's natural that guys will always be tempted to put more stock into size making a major difference than I personally would..."

Say Kat?...lol...lets remember that SHE was the one who posted about his size:

"...but because his penis is much larger than my x-hubby, I find myself having mutliple orgasms in positions I never even enjoyed before."

Sounds like men AND women out there put more stock into size than you and I would, huh? ;)

I'm just more into wondering if its just a little more his "style" as I said, not just his size, as SHE HERSELF said, and not JUST her psyche as well. I guess I just don't believe in sex being the exact same with everyone and that the ONLY change is likely the psyche, but rather the combination of things, whether 'she' thinks size is an issue or not.

Oh well.

 

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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 10:53pm
Well, I think you should read my original post since all I said was that she shouldn't give ALL the credit to her new guy! So, essentially, aren't we saying the same things here?

But I think most of us notice the physical differences between lovers, don't we? You would notice if your new lover had larger breasts than your last, and possibly attribute some new responses to that, right?

Like I said though, I'm happy that she's enjoying better sex now. It's refreshing to hear about an older woman who's stretching her limits.


Edited 5/20/2004 10:56 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 2:06am

OK....here's my take.

CL-Yasmin1967

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 1:55pm
That is because there isn't a man on the planet who could please you without knowing everything about you first Honey. You have told me that several times,. and regardless of what you may think about todays younger males, you need to realize that not all of us younger males just started humping girls younger. We started making things different for women sexually many years ago, before my generation, and probably before yours. Each new generation seems to bring something else, new and exciting to the table. And as we get older, sure, we get better, more experienced, more stamina, and more attentive, but the fact still remains. The generation I have grown up in was much the same as yours. Aids?? Wear a condom. It may not fully protect you, but it is better than nothing at all. It didn't slow the rate of teen pregnancy. Nor did it slow sexual activity is young people. Guys are starting to pay attention, and listen to women younger. Why? Because the girls want to feel good now more so than they want to please there men. And being so, they will give men who know nothing about sex a hard time, or they will train them. As they do, young men strat to pay attention, and the more they get it, the more they learn, the more women they are with, the more they realize the difference in women, and what it takes to please them. And sooner or later, they start to develope that ego!! I really think men of this generation are learning more, faster than men of old, and I think it is a good thing. But I also think the OP has a lot to do with it herself, and the fact that she is older, more mature, more aggressive probably, and more "intune" with herself. Also I think his desire to please her has some part to play here.

One last thing, then I will go. I highly doubt that the hieght of the sexual revolution was when you were growing up. I still think we have yet to see the height of that revolution. Free love?? That was all the drugs of those days talking, and the masses following. Not really the same thing as what I am referring to. That was all fine and good, but no matter what the era is called, or known for, I think today is just as open, if not more so to sex in society, than it ever was then. The sexual revolution is far from over, or even peaked. It has just begun in it's infantcy.

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 2:09pm
>> However, the most skilled man in the world can't bring pleasure to a woman who's not in the right frame of mind to enjoy. <<

So what you are saying is that the woman who actually has an orgasm during a rape (documented cases of this happening) actually enjoyed being Raped??? Not that the rapist was trying to please her at all, but it doesn't support your theory. And Yasmin, I do think his being younger does play a part, not all, I admit, but a part. Talented. He has to be talented, but then most women I have talked to that have been with younger men, almost allways tell me the same thing. They were very good. So, that leads me to believe a lot more of what I said previously. Younger men are getting more talented at a younger age, primarily because we are trying to please our women more. Being more generous, and less selfish. But, to each his own. No, we did not invent sexual pleasure. Your silly. We did not invent anything to do with sex. We just perfected it. LOL Just kidding. It is simply a matter of being less afraid of sex, less nervous about it, less performance anxiety, etc. etc. A combination of all the reasons mentioned is probably closer to the truth than we are all willing to imagine. LOL I gave women pleasure. I invented sex. I made orgasms possible. I allow women to enjoy sex. Well, My generation does. LOL I don't have anywhere near that big of an ego here people. That would make me god. And I am athiest. LOL

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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 4:33pm
Men have always known how to have sex, Jeep, but it's women who teach them to make love. And it's always been that way. I really think that you're downplaying what your older lover has taught YOU about that. It has nothing to do with sexual acts in particular but with combining the physical and emotional aspects of sex to make for a more spiritual and satisfying experience. Most men don't take the time to learn all that until they fall in love.

But anything we do sexually today, has always been done. There are only so many things one can physically do with another person(s), and none of it is new. With the exception of cyber sex, etc. which is really just masturbation. Our parents enjoyed all the same acts that we enjoy today, they just didn't feel the need to talk about it.

And the fact that a woman may orgasm during an assault is similar to soldiers masturbating in a foxhole with bombs going off all around and bullets zipping past their heads. It's a reaction to adrenline and fear. Nothing more. It has nothing to do with sex or pleasure at all.


Edited 5/21/2004 4:35 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 12:40pm
Right.

As I said all along, I honestly believe its the 'combination' as opposed to just one thing or another that makes the difference. If thats what you were also saying, good.

I just didn't see where -- putting more stock into size-- although that was the OP 'herself' who made that comparison, had anything to do with what you and I agreed on. I was just confused by that part of your post I guess. No problem.

 

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 9:36pm
Oh, I still think she's giving more credit to his penis size than is really due, don't misunderstand me. BUT she has nothing else to compare him with, other than her ex....so time will tell. I'm sure she's flattered and turned on by the fact that a 20-something young man is sexually attracted to her after a disatisfying marital sex life.

As I said before though, my bet is that she'll continue to enjoy great sex with any new partner that she desires, regardless of his equipment MAINLY because of her new attitude and phase in her life.

Sexual pleasure starts in the mind and it sounds like she has 'flipped the switch" to me.

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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:52am
you've mentioned females orgasming during rape a couple of times jeep...i doubt this is so common that it rates much merit.

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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 12:06am
Well Kat, I really don't recall her mentioning that her ex was all she had to compare with. Perhaps you could show me that part?

Of course sexual pleasure starts in the mind and her new attitude plays a vital role in enjoying her new partner, but at her age of 48, WHEW!, certainly not going to tell her that she couldn't enjoy the new physical attributes of a younger healthier more equipped man anyway when I have NO idea what her (mostly likely) 'much older than her new partner' husband was like.

So I could totally agree with you that her new enjoyment is mostly psychological desptie what she has already told us...

...or...

...I could respect the fact that an experienced 48 year old knows what she is experiencing and realize that she isn't just comparing her new attitude toward sex, but also the OBVIOUS physical differences (that SHE pointed out) as well.

She is having fun and thats all that matters...understood, but sex with a younger more potent man compared to what she had in her older ex all along WILL be a major factor anyway. Which is more?...who cares, but she, at 48, knows better than we do about her own situation. She drooled on this message board about his stamina and member size, case closed in my view. We have the right to post opinions on "why" she likes sex with this new guy, but I'm still convinced that she's old/experienced enough anyway to know what makes her happy...proof?...she's VERY happy now. LOL!! ;)

 

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