sex with a younger man

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Registered: 05-18-2003
sex with a younger man
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:43am
I am 48 and recently single. One month ago I started dating a much younger man (28) and have never had so much enjoyable sex. During my marriage the sex was OK, but with this guy we have sex two and three times a day. Although he is exhausting, I must admit I look forward to each and every minute. The sex not only lasts for long periods of time, but because his penis is much larger than my x-hubby, I find myself having mutliple orgasms in positions I never even enjoyed before. I sometimes feel a bit guilty about his age, but within a few short minutes in the sack and I forget about all that! Has anyone else had a similar experience.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 8:17am
hi para, i very much agree with your point except the part "sex with a younger, more potent man compared to what she had with her older ex all along WILL be a major factor anyway"...its *my* experience older men can be equally as "potent" as a younger guy...i find men in their 40's extremely sexual, energetic, potent, sensual, lustful, eager to please and be pleased, etc etc....how old are you para? (if you don't mind my asking)...

honey

    

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:07pm
Again, regardless of the experience that other women have had, I stress, again, that we are talking about the experience. YES older men are potent and likely even more so than many of the younger ones....BUT....viewing my quote , SHE HERSELF made that comparison....

So don't get me wrong, no qualm with older ones being able to please, but HER OWN comparison included words such as size and stamina among others. She wasn't exactly broad, she went a little detailed...LOL!!!

Please remember that I said sex with a "more potent" younger man (-her- description) as opposed to saying sex with "a younger man, period"...and also..."what SHE had with her ex" and not "all older men." See the difference?

hubby para

pushing 40

favorite music - 40's swing/big band and 50s jazz/blues

collect old coins, ships in bottles, lighthouse statues, model trains

desperately want a baby, still

fix cars, chop wood, archery, weights-muscle toning, finishing my & wifey's novel

poor vision still degrading, so my reign as tetris champ is over, but still pente & chess guru

I am NOT old...lol...just ask Kat (hmm...got a bone to pick with her for comments about the 'lovely' Grace Jones...grrr...).

I have to finish payroll now, so talk to ya later this week?...probably Thur or so.

 

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:40pm
Actually it is a lot more common than you might think Honey. Not a majority by any means, just more common than you think.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:28pm
how do you know so much about females orgasming during rape jeep?

honey

    

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 10:37am
Because my dear honey, I actually do keep up on the reports, and have been involved in the investigations, or Rapes. But, mostly because I have known several rape victims, there families and friends. I also look information up!!!!!!!
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 11:14am
i'm not trying to argue or get your goat up here jeep....you say you know victims of rape and have spoken to their family and friends...are you suggesting a family member of a rape victim would A. know if the woman orgasmed during the rape? and B. they would share the information that she orgasmed during rape with YOU?...do you actually ask rape victims if they orgasmed?...that seems a traumatic question to me jeep, i can't imagine a rape victim wanting a guy to ask "so did you cum during the attach?"...and i can't imagine a rape victim sharing personal information with a family member or friend and than having them tell her secret to YOU...that seems further violation of her.

i know many women and sadly many who have been sexually abused/assaulted and i can't imagine having the nerve to ask if they orgasmed...and not one woman has offered me such information...i find it very odd that you know rape victims who offer such information to you...and when you read up on this subject is it because you are intrigued by the idea of women orgasming during rape?...being as you read soo much on this subject could you give me some statistics as to how many women orgasm during rape?

hm.

honey

    

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 2:15pm
For your information, both my SO and my ex wife did. They had no control over that, and they did not enjoy the time they were in that situation, but they both did. So, I do take great offense to your constant badgering Honey. Please, I thank you for not continuing. I do not want to put you on the ignore list, as I have an empty ignore list for a reason, but I am really leaning in that direction when everything I say is critiqued, critisized, analyzed, and the responded to in such a demeanor. Yes, I have several firends who have been there, and it is been studied by several different intatutions, none I can name right off hand, but I remember reading an article on it. It is not all that common, but I think it is more common than you care to admit. Not a violation to anyone. I am someone that many people trust. Even the government trusts me with there secrets, so why should anyone else really think otherwise. I don't have to come out and ask them usually. They have come out and told me, asking if it was normal, or ok that it happened. Yes, these girls/women are traumatized, but having dealt with a number of rape victems in my life, I am able to help, to any extent I can. Many of them were friends, close friends before it happened, some friends of close friends. Did you know that a woman that does orgasm from a rape is far more likely to have serious complications later n in life, because of that simple fact. Did you know that women who reported having orgasms during a rape were then told they dcould not have been raped, if they orgasmed during it?? Did you know all the crap that women go through, strictly over this one topic? No, it's not fair, no its not right. It happens though, and when they have no where to turn, they close down, and start being much more self abusive. I dealt with a severe rape vistem, for almost 8 years of my life, and through her, and the groups she was in, I found out lots of interesting, yet sad, inforamtion. So, please get off my back.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 2:53pm
i didn't mean to aggravate you jeep, i was sincerely curious about your claim that rape victims and/or their family and friends had confided in you about orgasming during rape...i'm sure women do, i don't deny that...my only confusion was that i found it so very odd to imagine a woman asking a guy if its "normal or ok" to orgasm during rape (no matter how trustworthy the guy may be)...now i'm more confused than before as to why a woman would ask a male if its normal or ok to orgasm during rape?!...i can see asking a doctor or a rape counselor or even another female, but a man????...hm.

so anyway, i don't mean to put you on the defensive jeep...i'll certainly take your plea to heart and not post to you again.

honey

    

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 9:06pm
Jeep, I don't think honey is picking on you on this topic. I was very, very surprised at your assertion, too, and while I have no personal experience with any rape victims, I really wondered where you got your information. It seems Honey, too, has had exoerience with victims of rape and the topic has never been raised with her. I also must say that your reply was a little confusing and I'm not sure why the government trusting you with secrets has anything to do with rape victims.

taoist
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 10:28am
Do you never stop trying to prove yourself holier than thou Honey?? Do you know anything about me, other than what I tell you? Do you know anything at all about my relationships with these women? Do you know anything about them at all?? No, So, how about before you and I get into another stupid arguement, over something that you have very little clue on, we just do this. I will accept your confusion, and your disbelief, and I will leave it at that. You accept what I tell you as the facts as you know them, and we part ways, here and now, before this string ends up getting deleted, and you and I get another stupid letter from the caretakers of this site about our personal attacks on each other, because I am beginning to take great offense to your suggestive statements. Thank you for your input on this issue, but it is not the point of this thread now is it??? NO. So, Have a nice Day Honey. Hope you are able to find some peace in all this. As I will try to regard you as a person, with opinions that differ greatly from mine, and let your accusational statments drip from my back as a duck does with water.