sex with a younger man

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Registered: 05-18-2003
sex with a younger man
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:43am
I am 48 and recently single. One month ago I started dating a much younger man (28) and have never had so much enjoyable sex. During my marriage the sex was OK, but with this guy we have sex two and three times a day. Although he is exhausting, I must admit I look forward to each and every minute. The sex not only lasts for long periods of time, but because his penis is much larger than my x-hubby, I find myself having mutliple orgasms in positions I never even enjoyed before. I sometimes feel a bit guilty about his age, but within a few short minutes in the sack and I forget about all that! Has anyone else had a similar experience.

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 10:50am
Taoist. Your comments are always welcome in my opinion, and I will try and explain a little more for your benefit. Three of those women are ex lovers, and they asked me all sorts of questions about my experiences, my thoughts, opinions, and beliefs. When the first one asked me about this, I too was shocked. But I answered them the best I could at that point. The second one was a little less shocking, but it too happened in basically the same manor. Both were very nervous about it, and both were very upset with there experience. One had less than a years time between that and me, and immediately after they told me, I realized a lot about our relationships. It had been odd to me up until that point, because they had been very stand offish about sex, and about getting to close and comfortable. The only other one I know of personally is my cousin. And the only reason she told me, is because I asked her. When the first one asked me about it, I talked to my cousin. I had known about her rape for a while, and she had talked openly about it. She is a very strong woman, and finally after some therapy has realized that she was not at all responsible, and was able to openly discuss it without much trama. I had asked her about it being normal or not, and she told me. That is all. After that I did my own research, and have found several other documented cases of it happening. I am surprised by the findings just as you are, but I was more surprised by my cousin than any of them.
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Registered: 12-29-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 1:18pm
Jeephead, lighten up on Honey and control your anger. You're letting a few remarks make you lose control. Honey has said more "vinegar" things to other people ( including me) than I've ever seen her say to you and it has never resulted in so much rancor. She does like to "play" with people a bit, you should just not rise to the bait.

taoist.
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 1:31pm
Taoist, it is not so much that she spouts vineger at me, as it is that she constantly insults either my intelligence, or my experience. Two things of which I do take great offense to. And yes, she now has the ability to get under my skin, just by her comments alone. Most of our problem stems from the thread that was deleted, for our "bickering". I am just tired of being questioned on every single post I make with any info that is not common knowledge. Thank you for the reminder Taoist, but someone should really talk to her about her posts as well. They are abrasive, and degrading, and the offense that is taken by them, is for that reason alone. I will be adding her to my ignore list if she continues to berate and pour viengar in my direction as she does. As always Taoist, your comments are welcome, and your questions are as well, since you seem to be able to do so without being so abrasive.
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Registered: 12-29-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 4:31pm
It's just vinegar, not poison. And a little vinegar spices things up. After all, it's what the Chinese use in their "sweet and sour" dishes. They know how to balance the yin and Yang.

taoist
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 7:03am
:)

    

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 9:29am
Balancing ying and yang. Good one Taoist. But I am far from sugar. And I like to stay as far away from vinegar as possible. I am more like baking soda. Mix the two, and we start an eruption. LOL


Edited 6/2/2004 9:31 am ET ET by jeephead
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Registered: 05-14-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 4:33pm
If I may come to Jeep's and I's defense (as Jeep will no longer be posting, sadly enough) and as a two time rape victim, of course it is not widely known that women do achieve an orgasm during a rape. And I am not at all surprised that Jeep has had three lovers tell him this. When you get intimately involved with someone, they need to know EVERYTHING about what is ok to do and what is not ok to do. It effects EVERY aspect of one's life right down to where they sit in a restaurant and how they play with their SO (whether or not he can grab body parts to restrain you from playfully fighting back). Honestly, I bet a lot of women in therapy for rape, myself included, were terrified about achieving the big O again when they were ready to have sex again terrified that they would get a flashback of what happened to them before. Also, that unfortunate fact is used against women who are raped and go to trial by the scumbag lawyers who represent the rapist. I have first hand experience of that. Researching that is not all to hard to do, getting the transcripts of rape related court cases proves this. Now I know that both you and Taoist just said that you were surprised at Jeep's comments and "findings", I just thoought I would give a little insight from a woman's point of view who has been through it. I am lucky enough to have a cousin as well that I am very close to that I can talk openly about my rapes before I met and fell in love with my current SO. No, I would not ever want to be asked that by just a close friend who knew about my past and I shared no more with her so I see where you say that you could not see yourself asking to even being told. But if you have the close relationship and you have talked openly about it SEVERAL times, then maybe it would have come out sooner or later. Just a little insight from an outsider looking in. Maybe this can help settle things and quiet the nerves a bit.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 5:36pm

Yes, Sweetbutterfly, I agree with you.


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