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| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 2:40am |
Hi all! I have a question for everyone. I have never gone all the way with a guy while it was "that time of the month". There's a fair chance that this might occur here in the near future. I have a history with this guy (rather complicated, but in a GOOD way), and we have had oral sex and whatnot...but that's it....we aren't in an exclusive relationship or anything...So, I am concerned as to what I should say or do if things go farther and I *am* on my period?
Should I say something (tactfully, of course) that lets him know the deal, but that I still want to go farther? I mean, he is gonna find out eventually, if we are at that point. And...what should I say? Guys? Girls?? ANY tips at ALL would be much appreciated! I certainly do not want to gross him out, but, as I said...he's gonna find out!LOL
Thanks!!!!
Star
Should I say something (tactfully, of course) that lets him know the deal, but that I still want to go farther? I mean, he is gonna find out eventually, if we are at that point. And...what should I say? Guys? Girls?? ANY tips at ALL would be much appreciated! I certainly do not want to gross him out, but, as I said...he's gonna find out!LOL
Thanks!!!!
Star

You just have to tell him at some point when it's obvious that there is going to be some action happening. Probably at the start is best - like when you start to get a bit hot and heavy. Kiss a couple of times and just tell him before it gets too hot and heavy.
He'll either be happy to go as far as you'll let him, or he may prefer to not go there at all. Every guy is different. You could probably tell him that you've got your period and then let him know how far you are prepared to go if he wants to continue. Then tell him that it's up to him and you understand that whatever he wants to do is fine by you. Having your period when you want sex isn't exactly the best timing and yeah, it can put a damper on things, but it happens. It's just part of life. Don't get too worried about it because it happens to everyone and is just one of those things that every couple has to deal with at some point.
If you have a long history with this guy...and you think the time is getting near, why not just make sure that time doesn't happen while you're menstruating? I mean, really, if he's waited a long time, what's another few days? Or are you planning it this way because you think that during your period will be a "safe" time for you....that you can't get pregnant? If so, you're very wrong. You CAN get pregnant during your period. If you plan to start having intercourse, you also need to plan your birth control!
Some guys might be grossed out by it. Other guys don't care. ALL guys know that women have periods once a month, so it's not going to be a surprise to him! Once a month, it'll be messy. If he doesn't like messy, he'll wait.
Star