sexual agression

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2004
sexual agression
1
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 12:27am

hey all...
it's been a while since i've visited these boards. but recently my boyfriend and i have encountered some sex issues.
1. every since i started taking the birth control pills (which has been for two years now) my sexual desire has became an almost complete zero. my boyfriend says that it is because i no longer sexually desire him (then we argue about that). the arguement then turns into how he wishes me to be more sexually agressive and dominate, but my question is how? i know that lack of sex could lead us into more difficult problems in the future, especially since he extremely enjoys it. but i know it will not break us apart, but i do know that his previous girlfriend and him use to go at it like rabbits...so i guess with me it's more like hardly existant, so i'm getting worried. i would LOVE to be more dominate and desiring with sex like i use to be so how can i help and possibly fix this situation????

2. since we are currently handling away from each other we have phone sex quite often. he seems to be very creative while i lack in knowing what to say! this is a shock to me because i have a very wild imagination and am a very creative writer (i have written lovely sex scenes for my short stories) but when it comes to our phone sex, i find myself saying the same ol' thing. it doesn't seem to bother him cos he never complains...but it bothers me cos wanna come up with something new....but i dunno what! LMAO...any suggestions??
Thanks in Advance!
~CCC

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 12:48pm

If you know it's your BC pills that is causing your lack of desire, why don't you check with your ob/gyn and have them switched.


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