Sexual compatability & choice of mate.
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Sexual compatability & choice of mate.
| Sat, 08-07-2004 - 7:45am |
How important to you was sexual compatability in your choice of a spouse? It takes more than good sex to nurture a marriage, but sex is important for most people. I've been married twice. Both women and I engaged in lovemaking before the engagement, and both were good lovers. If the sex had been consistently poor, it probably would have been a obstacle to me wanting to marry them. Both could probably have been good friends, but from a wife, I want a good sexual connection.

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I think sexual compatability is important, but for me it wouldn't make or break a relationship and I wouldn't make my choice of marring this person based on sex if everything else was great in the relationship.
Leticia
Mancreature, I so agree with you.
I think that if one or both partners want to stay a virgin until married, you can still find out whether or not you're compatible. Even if you're not having sex, you'll know whether or not you're attracted to each other. And you can and should talk about things like ... what do you expect from a sex partner? are you willing to try oral sex? how often do you think we should have sex? Etc.
I think that a lot of the couples who end up with clashing libidos problems didn't talk about these things ahead of time, so they went into the relationships with very different expectations.
If all other aspects of the relationship are good, sex problems can be worked out. But only if both partners are willing to work on it.
~Jazz
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I'm waiting for marriage, and don't worry at all about compatability. Like you said, there are so many ways to tell, from talking about sex to just seeing the way you interact with someone. And yes, I have broken up with two men because their view of sex was different than mine (they were willing to wait...I think because they weren't too keen on the idea of sex at all...which was NOT ok with me, lol). So it is very possible.
A couple can discuss what they're willing to do in the future, but talk is easy. The proof is in the doing.
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