Sexual experience in relation to size?

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Sexual experience in relation to size?
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Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:49pm
This is a question for all the men out there: I am curious if there is a correlation between the 'size' of the guy and the number of lovers they have had. I am most curious about men who are either a fair bit smaller than normal or men who are a fair bit bigger than average. I have been thinking about this because of my last two boyfriends I have one who fits into both camps.

The big guy, whose size is quite remarkable, was by far and away the most experienced boyfriend I have ever had and he had been with a huge number of women. Initially I found this surprising because he's kinda shy, about average looking and not at all aggressive with women. I had to pursue him and I’m usually the shy one! When I asked him about it I was shocked at how aggressive women were with him if they found out about his 'dimensions'. Some of his stories were truly outrageous, I mean I don't think I had ever checked out a guy 'down there' before dating this man, the way he described it some women seem to make a game of it. I could barely believe the number of truly shocking experiences he had had.

On the other hand, my current boyfriend is very small and has had even less sexual partners than I have. He did mention to me once that he had had a couple of bad experiences with previous girlfriends which he believes may have been linked to his small size. Not too surprisingly, he is insecure about this and I don't think he has ever even fooled around with a girl unless they dating pretty seriously. Typically I would respect this, but he's implied that if he was more confident (not sure if this means bigger?) he would definitely have taken advantage of some missed opportunities to become lovers with other women. Lost some points there. Anyway this is a long post, but I would really be interested in knowing from guys, especially those who are outside the normal size range of what there sexual history is.

BTW, for my age I consider myself to be somewhat experienced sexually because when I am in a relationship I will experiment and have a high libido. However, I haven't had many partners so maybe most people would consider me inexperienced.
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 11:54am

The speedometer in my car indicates a maximum of 160 MPH, but it's rare to push it to the limit and make someone uncomfortable.

The same can be said for a large penis. It's nice to have the extra horsepower, but with most feeling being on the end, there's little reason to push the limit and make someone uncomfortable or cause pain.

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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 2:50pm

Yeah, well, I've never met a guy with a "fast car" who didn't ignore the speed limits on occasion either! LOL! Most men want and desire full penetration and very few would be satisfied with penetrating very shallowly...ALL the time.




Edited 10/17/2005 2:58 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 5:23pm
well ive had lots of partners and never had complaints but im small like about 5 inches or less and am ashamed of it sometimes but i make the best of it. theres more ways to please a gal than with a penis
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 5:51pm

I'm about average in penis size and I have had (to me anyway) a surprisingly large number of partners. So in my personal experience you would expect me to have had an average number of partners. I have had more than the average number of partners so there is no correlation in my personal experience.

Does having a bigger penis equal more partners? I think that the main influence is going to be in confidence levels of the guy that has the big penis. Confidence is generally sexy and will help get more partners. And Yes, there could be size queens interested in experiencing it too. And Yes, a small guy COULD be more self-concious and hesistant with women thereby "losing out" in potential sexual liasions. I can see that there could be factors relevant to the original question.

So a basic answer to the original question: Yes, I think that there probably IS some sort of correlation between penis size and number of partners. I couldn't say what exactly it would be though.

And Yes, it is a different question. You are not asking if a bigger penis is better.




Edited 10/17/2005 5:54 pm ET by westridge2001
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 5:52pm

You aren't small at 5"...you are average, according to general consensus. Most men do not have larger penises. Those may be the ones you HEAR about, but 5" is completely normal and average. And possessing larger penis doesn't automatically qualify a man as a great lover, by any means.

Don't know if you saw my thread about Jude Law's recent nude photos. He is completely average-sized and some were shocked by that revelation. Not sure why though as it's likely that most male celebrities are.




Edited 10/17/2005 5:54 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 7:42pm
well your right on that. im probably exagerating a little i just measured it at a little over 4 inches it must be shrinking. but ihave made the best out of it and never had a gal complain. i was always asahamed to be seen in the light but it dont bother me anymore
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Mon, 10-24-2005 - 11:34pm

"I would really be interested in knowing from guys, especially those who are outside the normal size range of what there sexual history is."

Hi Keri,
Being quite a bit out of the normal size range myself I can tell you from personal experience that being hung short can be a handicap for having sex with some women. Not all women by any means (as some of the very kind ladies here so eloquently express) but I've had a few women I was dating say some downright cutting comments when I took off my pants and they saw me erect for the first time. Needless to say I put my jeans back on and the romance was over - but that was their intent to stop things right there once they knew I did not meet their minimum size requirements. That for sure lowers a guy's sexual self esteem for awhile - in my case I did not date for years after one particularly cruel incident. Maybe your new bf experienced the same things with some former gfs. Being shut down as a sexual partner is not that unusual as I've learned from talking with other guys who are also alot shorter down there. So yes, having a smaller than aver size can impact a guy's sexual experience.

I recently got back into the dating scene after the ending of a long term relationship. I was nervous about how a new lady might view my size - in particular a gorgeous woman I had just met in a class. Our first dates went fabulously and she was soon giving me very obvious green lights for us to be lovers. The moment of truth arrived and she said we should shower first before going to bed. I climbed into the shower and it was obvious that I REALLY liked her. (Hey, when you really like someone ALL of you really likes her too - if you know what I mean.) LOL! We kissed - then she looked me over and said, "Wow. You sure look different from my other bfs but ... I like that. I think you look great." We made love later and we fit like a hand in a perfectly sized glove. So for all you other shorter guys - keep looking! Don't let some rude comments stop you. You will find your soulmate bro!

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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 4:12pm
Amen to that, Blonde!
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 5:43pm
Yes, but there are also tribes where the males attach things to their penises in an attempt to make them longer. They still have to hunt and provide for their women, but a larger penis is deemed a sign of masculinity.

 


 


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Wed, 10-26-2005 - 3:56pm

i have no idea why you posted this question again you already posted it in another board here.........

so i will paste what i said there here

as silly as this question is there is an important point that it makes and that’s not really pointed out....CONFIDENCE

sure there may be some added confidence to guys who are large but that’s only because they read/whatever females talk how a guy with a big one is god etc etc so they think they are the best thing on earth. But there can also be a guy that is small that has confidence as well and could possibly been with more women then the other guy. Size don't matter on this because there could so many factors that can be added for example the guy could be good looking yet not have a large penis and have lots of women approach him while there can be a guy who is not good looking and have a large one yet can't get a women to sleep with him. There also can be guys who are average but think they are small (look at some of the threads some guys make here) and that would effect their confidence to go after women and their can be and in contrast there can be guys who are big but don't think they are big enough etc etc etc

asking this question is like asking if hot women with a perfect body has more sex partners then a ugly/average looking fat/chubby women or a women with big breasts compared to a women with small ones