Sexual experience in relation to size?
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Sexual experience in relation to size?
| Fri, 10-14-2005 - 12:49pm |
This is a question for all the men out there: I am curious if there is a correlation between the 'size' of the guy and the number of lovers they have had. I am most curious about men who are either a fair bit smaller than normal or men who are a fair bit bigger than average. I have been thinking about this because of my last two boyfriends I have one who fits into both camps.
The big guy, whose size is quite remarkable, was by far and away the most experienced boyfriend I have ever had and he had been with a huge number of women. Initially I found this surprising because he's kinda shy, about average looking and not at all aggressive with women. I had to pursue him and I’m usually the shy one! When I asked him about it I was shocked at how aggressive women were with him if they found out about his 'dimensions'. Some of his stories were truly outrageous, I mean I don't think I had ever checked out a guy 'down there' before dating this man, the way he described it some women seem to make a game of it. I could barely believe the number of truly shocking experiences he had had.
On the other hand, my current boyfriend is very small and has had even less sexual partners than I have. He did mention to me once that he had had a couple of bad experiences with previous girlfriends which he believes may have been linked to his small size. Not too surprisingly, he is insecure about this and I don't think he has ever even fooled around with a girl unless they dating pretty seriously. Typically I would respect this, but he's implied that if he was more confident (not sure if this means bigger?) he would definitely have taken advantage of some missed opportunities to become lovers with other women. Lost some points there. Anyway this is a long post, but I would really be interested in knowing from guys, especially those who are outside the normal size range of what there sexual history is.
BTW, for my age I consider myself to be somewhat experienced sexually because when I am in a relationship I will experiment and have a high libido. However, I haven't had many partners so maybe most people would consider me inexperienced.
The big guy, whose size is quite remarkable, was by far and away the most experienced boyfriend I have ever had and he had been with a huge number of women. Initially I found this surprising because he's kinda shy, about average looking and not at all aggressive with women. I had to pursue him and I’m usually the shy one! When I asked him about it I was shocked at how aggressive women were with him if they found out about his 'dimensions'. Some of his stories were truly outrageous, I mean I don't think I had ever checked out a guy 'down there' before dating this man, the way he described it some women seem to make a game of it. I could barely believe the number of truly shocking experiences he had had.
On the other hand, my current boyfriend is very small and has had even less sexual partners than I have. He did mention to me once that he had had a couple of bad experiences with previous girlfriends which he believes may have been linked to his small size. Not too surprisingly, he is insecure about this and I don't think he has ever even fooled around with a girl unless they dating pretty seriously. Typically I would respect this, but he's implied that if he was more confident (not sure if this means bigger?) he would definitely have taken advantage of some missed opportunities to become lovers with other women. Lost some points there. Anyway this is a long post, but I would really be interested in knowing from guys, especially those who are outside the normal size range of what there sexual history is.
BTW, for my age I consider myself to be somewhat experienced sexually because when I am in a relationship I will experiment and have a high libido. However, I haven't had many partners so maybe most people would consider me inexperienced.

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D. Blar
If you already posted your answer than why do it again? Now that seems silly!
All the same, thanks for your reply. Actually, I thought it was fairly obvious that a big part of what I was talking about was confidence. I guess it wasn’t to you, and I should have been more clear.
Another thing I’m not really clear on is your point in the last paragraph. I think you are implying that “of course” a well endowed guy will have more sex than a smaller man (“like a women with a perfect body has more sex than an ugly/average looking women")? I think that’s the analogy you are trying to use? Anyway, this isn’t obvious to me and that is why I was asking.
Thanks Kat!
I've talked with quite a few other smaller than average guys during my teens and twenties and nearly all of them felt very shy about about dating with what they considered was a liability to finding a mate. They'd all been kidded by "the guys" in Jr High and HS locker rooms about their size (and made to feel less masculine because of it) and this carried over into their psychology of dating. It only makes sense that this could impact a guy's sexual experience, right? Dating time comes and he gets his nerve up and asks her out. Now if he gets told by a date that he is "WAY smaller than other guys I've dated before" or she stops dating him after they become sexual - then this is going to make him shy about dating again. Right?
So my conclusion is yes - size can definitely be a factor in sexual experience. But the good news is ALOT of women do not really care about size. So keep heart smaller guys! You will find your lover and make her happy no matter what you've been endowed with. However, be sure to use ALL of your skills to satisfy her and make her so happy she can't help but love you.
I speak from experience on this. I've been told I'm a "great lover" by new and former lovers and, to be completely honest, I'm exactly half the size of average. (Most surveys conclude average is between 6 to 6.5 - I'm 3 to "almost" 3.25.) My point to divulging this is not to put myself down (hey it's what I've got and I'm not about to go get surgery or tie weights on myself, lol) but to say - if I can please a lady, I KNOW you other guys can too. So stop worrying and ask her out!
Edited 10/26/2005 6:46 pm ET by blondeguitarman
You're preaching to the converted here, Blonde.
Penis size is not even on my priority list when it comes to qualities I looked for in a man.
IF I liked the way a man looked, his personality, his sense of humor, sense of self, etc. then his penis size had no bearing on my decision to date him. I could have cared less about his size since intercourse is not the main source of my pleasure anyway. Never has been. Nope, big, average or small, it's all the same to me.
I married the perfect guy for me....he's talented, a great lover,humble,great looking,kind,intelligent,honest and he's perfectly average in size. I wouldn't trade any of those things for a huge erection.
Edited 10/26/2005 6:49 pm ET by katmandoo2001
You are a gem Kat and your guy is very lucky to have you.
To Keri - it's a feedback thing. I had no idea I was smaller until I hit the showers in Jr High and started getting comments about it from my peers. Then with dating it was the same feedback loop - "small" comments from some of the ladies. Such feedback slows down alot of smaller guys experience levels too. I know guys who have given up entirely on dating and resigned themselves to bachelor status forever because of this negative feedback. That is my motivation for posting on this. Don't give up Dudes! There are ladies out there like Kat (and maybe Keri too?) who will love you for YOU. I know, because I just found her.
Actually no it doesn't seem silly that i posted here too i already said i am going to paste what i said there as well.
but if your post was all about confidence there would be no need to post this question would it? Since as i said it would not matter what size the person is to determine confidence there a various other factors that add more towards it.
In the last paragraph I wrote I was not implying anything like that I was just saying asking this question is like asking questions like that
You shouldn't have asked a man. They'll lie to themselves and to you everytime. I had to respond after reading a couple of the men's "size doesn't matter" replies. What a joke! Like big tits don't matter!
I had the best sex of my life with this well hung German who looked like a model. Guys who are well-endowed can be shy. Why? Because girls gossip. We tell every girlfriend we have when about them. They don't have to advertise because we do it for them. So naturally they get more experience. And when it's that big ... they don't have to be good in their "technique." You feel it at every angle! I'm sorry ... but as far as straight sex goes there's nothing like a well endowed man.
Ofcourse it's not always the 6'2 stud who is well endowed. Sometimes it's the 5'10 skinny guy (think Tommy Lee). Guys with big dicks can sit back because they know girls will come to them, and they have that quiet confidence because they know what they're packing. I can deal with average, but I CANNOT deal with small, and as long as I live I will never forget that German Adonis. I hope that other women around the world get to experience the same pleasure I did at least once in their life.
In reading your post, I had to laugh....you really sound like a "well-endowed" man posting on this board in the disguise of a woman.
I wouldn't necessarily generalize about well-hung guys being shy. Many I've known have been quite arrogant and obnoxious. Often times, they weren't that tall or good-looking.
I think the previous poster may be on to something! LOL!
Your response is full of assumptions. Number one being the assumption that every woman cares about size. Not so at all. This one certainly doesn't. You also assume that every man likes huge breasts. Wrong again. I'm perfectly average sized and I've never had any problems getting a date.
And I experience great pleasure EVERY night with my German/Irish/Swedish/perfectly average-sized "Adonis". He's my DH.
So you can keep your big guys with poor technique, I'll take average any day of the week.
Edited 10/27/2005 5:22 pm ET by katmandoo2001
If I have the option between good sex with an average man or good sex with a well-endowed man, I'd take the average one. There's a fine line between pleasure and pain, and although a guy might be careful as to how far he thrusts his large appendage, he only has to slip up once and ruin the moment!
I have small breasts, and I don't have any problems attracting guys. But I do have a sexy butt LOL.
I'm a little surprised that no one responded yet to such an interesting point you made, xploziv.
Not just in certain cultures, but even many men and women right here in civilation view certain things as more or less masculine and feminine as well.
All of us have our own certain views about breast size and penis and pubic hair (or lack of) and facial hair and height and muscle tonage and you name it. I believe its true that so many of us DO view these certain attributes we discuss on this board as either more or less masculine or feminine...it really does show.
Although no one attribute is than another, I agree that not only do individuals enjoy their own preferences regarding those attributes, but many also simply enjoy the more masculine or feminine view they develop because of them too, despite the satisfying feeling that penetration may bring.
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