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sexual history/experience
| Sun, 07-11-2004 - 11:29pm |
i just started seeing this guy. and we haven't really talked about sex with each other, or the past or just sex in general. but tonight we did. and everytime i found out more about his past it just kept getting worse. hes 4 years older than me, i'm 20. so he's got 4 years on me right...and i'm almost afraid to ask how many people he's been w/ and if he's been tested. i'm starting to feel really inferior

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Are you by some chance thinking that, since you assume he's had lots of experience (which you don't know for a fact) that he's somehow better than you, or that you won't be good enough for him? I have news for you, guys that have had LOTS of experience can still be lousy lovers. Numbers don't equal knowledge. And, no matter how experienced, or inexperienced either of you is, the first time with a new partner is always awkward, and not as good as it will be later, when you know each other's rhythms, likes and dislikes.
Besides you have to know if he is STD free, there is nothing else about his past sexual experiences that you need to know.
the thing that IS important is talking about your sexual health....when i first started dating my current SO- we just sat down and agreed that this might be a little uncomfortable, but let's just get through it...we asked each other everything we'd been tested for and when...we talked about how we wanted to be safe and what methods of BC we wanted to use etc. Yes, it can be a little nerve wracking, but what you must always remind yourself is that if you aren't ready to have that discussion then you aren't ready to be having sex!
There is NOTHING embarrassing about your sexual past or your need to protect your sexual health!!
You 16 years
I don't know what STATE YOU LIVE. You both need to know the "age of concent." if you have sex, he could be charged with statutory RAPE! Mac
i feel inferior b/c he has so much more experience than i do. not that it SHOULD matter but i feel like i'm not good enough b/c of it.
yes i do know not all men are sluts. and i never thought that about him until last night. now i know there's 5 women at least and i know there's more. which really doesnt matter to me. but when he asks waht the wildest thing i've done, or where etc. and i dont really have that many stories to "compete" with.
he did ask me how many sexual partners i've had. and since it's the beginning of something that has the possibility of becoming a relationship i didnt want to lie or not be honest with him, or decline to answer cause i dont want to ruin anything for the future. but i'm holding back on asking him.
won't it be akward to have "the talk" then be like ok i wanna F your brains out????
lol sorry, my mind it always runnin
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