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| Sun, 07-11-2004 - 11:29pm |
i just started seeing this guy. and we haven't really talked about sex with each other, or the past or just sex in general. but tonight we did. and everytime i found out more about his past it just kept getting worse. hes 4 years older than me, i'm 20. so he's got 4 years on me right...and i'm almost afraid to ask how many people he's been w/ and if he's been tested. i'm starting to feel really inferior

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I think i've been confused with someone else...
i don't have a terribly high number i don't think (i'm not the poster with 30 partners by the age of 23)- i'm 28 and have been with 10 people...i'm just saying to the OP that the whole amount of a person is not entirely wrapped up in their 'number'... so perhaps for her to jump to a conclusion about the guy she's dating based solely on his number could mean that she just might be missing out on something...i do regret sleeping with some of the people i did sleep with and i know that i had a 'crazy' time related to a particularly bad point in my life where i did somethings i regret, in reaction to that bad time...perhaps the guy the OP is with has had a similar experience is all i was trying to say...
i know for me- i'm MILES beyond the person i was 10 years ago...i HAVE changed tremendously and am not at ALL interested in reliving those wild days...it IS my past, and there's nothing I can do about it and it has all lead me to the settled happy person i am now...i just can't stand the judgement that someone's 'number' is the baseline to judge them as a person!
but to presume that based on the 'number' alone is wrong i think...anyway, i'm just saying be open and honest, be SAFE, but don't hang everything on just the NUMBER....
someone could have a higher nubmer most of which were from realtionships, or a relatively small number some of which came from a series of unprotected one nights stands...
there's always more to the story than the number- make sure you're getting the right info and not inferring....that's all!
so i saw him last night and we went rollerblading then came back here and eventually had sex. i kinda wanted to but i dont think it was the right decision. i know many people have mentioned before about the number of people one has been w/ is not a reflection of how good they are or can be...and i totally agree and understand. i'm going to go ahead and say that it was OK but not GREAT or AMAZING. i've always heard that the first few times w/ someone new is difficult b/c you have to get to know what they like and stuff. clearly we've both had different experiences in the sack.
i had every intention of having the talk w/ him before this occurred but didnt. i most definitely will before it happens again. the last guy i was with was great. the best sex i've had - it was a fwb relationship, ever since the 1st time we did it, it was amazing and kept getting hotter. but then i look back on last night and just dont feel the same way
Have you engaged in risky behavior? Sex without condoms? Unprotected anal sex? Injected drugs? Gotten a 'street' tattoo or piercing? (as opposed to one done under state regulations, with sterile equipment and following aseptic procedures.) Had one night stands with people whose history you don't know, or sexual encounters under the influence?
Knowing those things are what keeps you safe, along with practicing safe sex yourself. One encounter with an infected person is more risky than multiple encounters with condoms. But the exact number, and details - no one should feel they *have* to share those.
May I ask KCbelle what your bad experiance was?..were you trying to bury a bad break up?
How many sex partners give a person the whore status?..that is in the eye of the beholder.
People need to realize that when they do find that person that they believe is "the one"..they need to realize that the that "one" may not be too thrilled with your past behavior..just a thought.
And then there are those who it doesnt matter at all.
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