Where you're "coming from" is the fact that you've learned to look beyond the "package" and see people for what they ARE, not what they look like!
We all have our "ideal" mate. We are all attracted to a particular kind of "look". Unfortunately, looks mean very little in the grand scheme of things. A good looking guy or woman can be a horrible person inside, and as you've found out, someone who doesn't "look" so great might be the most wonderful person in the world. Don't make the mistake of thinking that all overweight men are great guys, either. Just as all lean trim men aren't great guys. Some people just never learn to look beyond the obvious.
I've seen posts from women who talk about their partners lying, cheating, abusing, but they end it with "he's so HOT", or "he's so good looking". A lot of good those looks do them when they're miserable with the person.
Conversely, I've known women and men who go on and on about how beautiful or sexy or attractive their partner is, and when you see them for the first time, you say to yourself "HUH?". Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you truly CARE about a person, they will be beautiful to YOU....and it doesn't matter what other people think about them. I married a man who I thought was very handsome, and had a great build. He turned out to be a controller, a cheater, and a lousy husband and father. After we got divorced, I looked at him and wondered what I ever found attractive about him! To me he WAS attractive in every sense of the word, because I "loved" him. Once he killed the love that I had for him, he was ugly in my eyes!
If you love this guy, then appreciate him, and be happy with him. You don't love his package as much as you love the man inside. Lucky for you that you were mature enough to look PAST the package!
Igrl
Edited 11/16/2006 6:57 pm ET by forbiddenluv2006
I like large women (Size 20+) but am not attracted to men with any bulk on them, I like them rail thin.
Where you're "coming from" is the fact that you've learned to look beyond the "package" and see people for what they ARE, not what they look like!
We all have our "ideal" mate. We are all attracted to a particular kind of "look". Unfortunately, looks mean very little in the grand scheme of things. A good looking guy or woman can be a horrible person inside, and as you've found out, someone who doesn't "look" so great might be the most wonderful person in the world. Don't make the mistake of thinking that all overweight men are great guys, either. Just as all lean trim men aren't great guys. Some people just never learn to look beyond the obvious.
I've seen posts from women who talk about their partners lying, cheating, abusing, but they end it with "he's so HOT", or "he's so good looking". A lot of good those looks do them when they're miserable with the person.
Conversely, I've known women and men who go on and on about how beautiful or sexy or attractive their partner is, and when you see them for the first time, you say to yourself "HUH?". Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you truly CARE about a person, they will be beautiful to YOU....and it doesn't matter what other people think about them. I married a man who I thought was very handsome, and had a great build. He turned out to be a controller, a cheater, and a lousy husband and father. After we got divorced, I looked at him and wondered what I ever found attractive about him! To me he WAS attractive in every sense of the word, because I "loved" him. Once he killed the love that I had for him, he was ugly in my eyes!
If you love this guy, then appreciate him, and be happy with him. You don't love his package as much as you love the man inside. Lucky for you that you were mature enough to look PAST the package!
Edited 11/16/2006 6:58 pm ET by forbiddenluv2006
Edited 11/16/2006 7:00 pm ET by forbiddenluv2006