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She orgasims too fast
| Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:23am |
I have a brand new girl friend and we are haveing a great time together but when we have sex, she orgasims in less than 3 miuntes. She is 25 and I am 40 so I would prefer to go much longer. I have never had this happen with a woman...what can I do to "slow her down" The worst part is I cannot orgasim in 3 miuntes. (Not since high school!) And because I have a large penus I can tell that after she is done it is a bit uncomfortable for her while I finish. She has never said anything but I can tell by the change in her moans that it is starting to hurt so I feel like I need to finish as soon as possible. We have tried a technique where as soon as she reaches climax, we switch to anal which causes me to climax very quickly, but again because of my size one round of anal per week is about all she can take. And even though she never tells me to stop, I can tell the anal is very uncomfortable for her even I if I only go in 1/2 way.

Women don't have to stop just because they have an orgasm. Unlike men, women can have multiple orgasms, over and over and over. For most women, orgasms don't even come from intercourse....they come from clitoral stimulation, either during foreplay, or during intercourse.
It's very possible she's faking, just to get you to stop because she's in pain. A woman that's in pain doesn't have orgasms, no matter what. Having a large penis shouldn't cause pain if the woman has had enough foreplay, and she's well lubricated.
As far as anal is concerned, the pain is at the entry, and it doesn't matter how deep you go..the anal sphincter is where the pain comes from, not the inner rectum.
It sounds like this woman is trying her best to accomodate you even though she's in pain no matter what you're doing.
You need to give her LOTS of foreplay, and use extra lube if that's what's needed. For a woman that's enjoying what you're doing, an orgasm isn't the end....it's the beginning.
Try talking to her and asking her what's going on. You should check out www.the-clitoris.com to understand how a woman's body works.
Sakura gave you good points and a great website to visit.
If she is shaking/trembling from her orgasm, she may well need you to stop for a brief moment, but should be more than happy to have you continue once she has finished her first orgasm. You might want to ask her about that, as there are times that an orgasm can be so intense that I need a brief break -- there are other times that I don't. Usually, I only need a break from clitoral stimulation, if anything.
Her moans are probably changing because she is not working up to an orgasm at that moment, but that doesn't mean they won't change yet again if she is getting close to another orgasm.
If she is experiencing pain, you need to know if it's being caused because you are bumping her cervix or if it is from width. If it's width, lubrication will take care of the problem. If you are hurting her cervix, changing positions should take care of that.
Wow I'm a woman and I have never climaxed that fast.
Maybe your just to good! lol. What I'll do when I finish
to fast. I'll go to the bathroom and come back to hubby and
it doesn't hurt anymore. Ask her to try that. It works for me.
plus it's like starting over. If you know what I mean.
Kareese