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| Sat, 01-15-2005 - 9:46am |
She said I was the first guy she ever had sex with that didn't hurt.
Ok, here's the lowdown. I have a friend who I "hang out" with from time to time. Whenever we have sex, my first priority is her orgasm (via oral). Mainly because it gets me off the hook as far as stamina is concerned during the first inning. (Sidenote: the "first inning" typically lasts about two or three minutes of penetrative sex, then after my refractory period, about 5 or 10 minutes, I go into perma-hard mode... literally hours.)
Anyway, after her orgasm, she's typically sopping wet. I slowly ease into her and the first thing I notice is a rather large, rigid, bump that is pretty shallow (I'd say about 4-5" deep). I'm assuming this is her cervix. I try pointing my cockhead away from the bump. If we're in missionary, I ride high until I get past. From there, I go to town, trying my best not to pull out shallower than her cervix.
Anyway, we were sitting around one day and just talking when she mentions out of the five guys she's been with, I was the only one that didn't hurt. I asked why and she shrugged, not knowing why. She did mention that they were all pretty selfish men who were in too much of a hurry and too concerned about themselves to try pleasing her.
I asked if I was on the smaller side (6" long, 5.6" girth) and her answer was that she wasn't sure.
At the risk of sounding like I'm tooting my own horn (well I ok, I am) I was just wondering how common her last four lovers are?

I'd say they were very common. And so is she.....if she allowed them to continue hurting her, instead of making them either stop, or change positions. Being that every woman is different, guys aren't necessarily being selfish, or hurting their partner on purpose, but if the female allows it, and doesn't try to help him NOT to hurt her, you can't blame them.
In you, she found someone who's trying NOT to cause pain, so she's lucky. Betcha if you DID cause pain, she'd never say a word about it, though. It's easier for her to talk to you because you're not her "boyfriend"....and she can be honest with you. Too bad most women can't be honest with their b/f, too.
I'm confused with your "description" of your "method", though. The cervix it at the top of the vagina (or I guess you could say at "the end"). It is hard, and it's more than a "bump".....it's round, and has an opening in the middle. Like a donut, with the hole closed. If you hit the cervix hard, that's one kind of pain. Dryness is another kind, but it doesn't sound like she's dry, at least with you. She might have been with other guys, if they didn't take enough time in foreplay. What confuses me is you saying that you "try not to pull out 'shallower' than her cervix". What do you mean by that? It's not the "outstroke" that hurts, it's the "instroke" if you do it too hard or too deep.
And what do you mean you like to "ride high till you get 'past'? You can't GET past the cervix! You can't go "beyond" it, it's the "end of the road". Maybe it's just your description that I don't understand.
And here we go with size again! It's NOT the size, it's how you do it, and you seem to know how to do it. Your size is just fine, slightly over average. YOU know how to use it, and lots of guys don't. Again, how can they if someone along the line doesn't TELL them? Most men are NOT born good lovers, they have to learn, either from places like this, or from their partners.
Anyway, it sounds like you're making her happy, and that's what counts!
Wow, thanks for the great reply, greenteabag!
Sadly, I never realized it was common for women *not* to complain about pain with sex. You are right, if that is indeed the case, that I couldn't blame them.
>>It's easier for her to talk to you because you're not her "boyfriend"....and she can be honest with you. <<
I never thought of that.
Regarding the bump, you're right, it felt more like I was sliding underneath something slightly larger than a golf ball and pretty rigid. I couln't tell if it was donut like, just that it was more elevated than her vaginal wall.
Regarding the "method" and my description, let me try again...
Here's a great picture of a vagina:
http://www.the-clitoris.com/1r4/anatomy/clit04.jpg
The Os, or opening to the uterus, is about 3/4 of the way in the vaginal canal. If the penis entered and slid past (or underneath i.e. the posterior) then there's a pocket where one can safely thrust without colliding with the cervix.
>>What confuses me is you saying that you "try not to pull out 'shallower' than her cervix". <<
This an example:
http://www.penissizedebate.com/images/doc/vagina_penetrated1b.jpg
...but don't pay attention to the arrows to the left. I don't believe I'm coming back out of the "pocket" otherwise I'd have to go colliding head-on with the cervix.
>>And what do you mean you like to "ride high till you get 'past'? <<
Imagine holding a ballpen with a closed fist and pointing that pen down while sliding it in. If I "ride high", I'm pointing my penis down by using the top of her opening as a fulcrum thereby sliding below the cervical mound. Mind you, there's still hard contact, but it's an easing in of sorts.
>>And here we go with size again! It's NOT the size, it's how you do it, and you seem to know how to do it.<<
I kind of figured I'd get some flack for that. :)
>>Your size is just fine, slightly over average. <<
Aww, shucks, thanks. But it was an honest question to her. If she had behemoths before me, then of course I would stretch/collide with her less.
>>Anyway, it sounds like you're making her happy, and that's what counts!<<
So true!
I hope that cleared up any misunderstanding.