Is she sexually selfish? (EXPLICIT)

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Is she sexually selfish? (EXPLICIT)
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:22pm

Alright, question from a guy.

So I met this girl about a week and a half ago (25 y/o law student) and we went out on our third date last night. I finally invited her back to my place to watch a movie and have a drink or two. Halfway through our movie, we started kissing, which led to heavy making out, which lead to getting both our shirts off, so I was pretty stoked.

Once we were both topless, I tried to slide my hand between her legs and under her panties, but she grabbed my hand to stop me, so I thought to myself "okay, just chill out, go with the flow and try again in a few minutes."

So we make out a little more. She lets me get her jeans off so all she's wearing is her panties, but she still wouldn't let my hand under them, so I started rubbing her off through her panties. I could tell she was getting into it, so after a minute or two, she finally lets me slide them off and I start to give her head.

So after a while of that, I was thinking "yes, now it's my turn," so I undress, get a condom, but she stops me. She clenches her legs shut and tells it's too soon to go that far. So I'm thinking "okay, if I work on her a little more she'll let me." So I go down on her again, finger her a bit and I made her cum.

So after that, I try to go for sex again, but she's still "not ready" so I slyly suggest she "return the favor IN KIND" but she gets a squeemish look to her face. I didn't beg or anything, just prod her on a bit, but she just jokingly said "sorry, I don't suck **** after just a week."

I'm confused. This woman was saying it's "too soon" and that she's "not ready."

She's ready to let a guy she just met rub her off and eat her out, but she's not ready to have sex or even give head in return? Is this a bad sign? Is she sexually selfish or ungenerous?

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:48pm
In my opinion,



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Registered: 06-29-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:52pm
OR, the next time he takes a girl out, ask her is she likes oral sex. If she says she doesn't do it, then he should forego the act, himself.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:54pm

As the other poster said.......you need to get to know these women better before you expect sex from them.

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:11pm
Well like I said, I figured at the time that if she was ready enough to let a guy eat her out, she was ready enough to have sex.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:44pm

Some women, NOT that I agree........think that by not having intercourse (it's ALL sex!) they're staying pure, or innocent, or they can say they're a virgin.

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Registered: 06-18-2008
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 4:39pm

From reading your post it sounded to me that she was letting you do what you seemed to WANT to do (eat her out) since it's something she enjoys well enough.....after all it just requires laying back.


It may be hard to grasp that as a man, but I've heard of this situation happening PLENTY of times and it basically amounts to a woman who figures that she's giving you something you want and it isn't something she minds so she's making you happy and yet she dosen't feel required to go further with anything.


I don't think you should do something for someone that you didn't just want to do freely in this kind of scenario, you shouldn't be doing it expecting reciprocation in kind. I don't think the fact that she let you eat her out and didn't do anything more means she was selfish or that she should have been required to reciprocate. Lots of women see letting a guy eat them out as already giving them something. Hell, just a quick look on Craigslist and you'll see men posting sex ads just to give a woman oral. So don't go acting like you didn't get anything out of it. As for reciprocation, it's just a date man,

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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 4:43pm
No, I think you got what you deserved!
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 5:37pm
Welcome to the board, Rosygirl. It's nice to see you joining in.


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 5:41pm

I think there are too many "if's" in this scenario. "Would this have happened if you weren't pushing your luck?" or "Would she have given you head if you were in a relationship?" or "Is it considered selfish if it's something you appear to want to do?"

From what you described here, she tried to let you know she wasn't ready to go further. You pushed, hoping you would get lucky. You did in a sense, but just not as lucky as you thought you should have gotten, kwim?



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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 5:52pm
Thanks Misty Mae.

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