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she thinks her breasts are too small
| Mon, 01-21-2008 - 4:21pm |
just as the title says.....she thinks her breasts are too small so they are completely off limits for me to see, touch,

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Telling her you like them hasn't worked? She thinks you're lying? how nice of her
Welcome to the board, dylhan.
Have you tried talking with her outside of the bedroom. Really, sit her down and have a honest conversation with her about how it makes YOU feel when she keeps this part of her body covered. During that conversation, reassure her about your feelings for her too.
I would point out to her that it's like a slap in the face to you. You are telling her you like her body and she's telling you she doesn't believe you. I wouldn't be mean about it, I would just include it in your conversation so that it gives her something to think about.
If she still can't relax, ask her what she thinks she needs to learn to relax about this. Sometimes, people have to find their own path to deal with their insecurities. Let her know that you want her to work on it because you care about her -- all of her. This insecurity certainly isn't good for her own emotional health.
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You have gotten some great responses already so I will add my 2 cents.
I was just like your SO. Little to no breasts and all the talk and loving my wonderful dh gave me for 25 years still never helped.
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Sounds like you are doing a lot.
Hey dylhan,
if she hates her boobs so much, suggest her a boob job,even if that's against your believes,if it'll boost her confidence,go for it,and most importantly-support her.
good luck
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This may seem strange because I'm a male but I can totally relate to her frame of mind and difficulty in changing it.
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Hi Rich,
I just wanted to comment on this a little. For the first 16 years I was with my DH, I was very reluctant to accept his compliments because of my own insecurities. Surely if I felt that some part of my body was inadequate (or overly adequate) then he must be just saying that to make me feel good, but he couldn't possibly be serious.
It wasn't until we had a long talk and really addressed it that I began to understand. By brushing off his comments, or not believing he was sincere, I was causing a couple of problems. First, I was not believing him which was a problem in and of itself (calling him a liar). Second, I was creating a negative experience in our bedroom because I was putting myself down. It's difficult to really put it all into words, but it did give me something to think about. While I still may have my own insecurities, by removing them from my relationship with DH it has improved our relationship in many ways. I can still feel uncomfortable in a locker room, but I'm not cheating him in that process.
I don't think it should be a point that is made in a mean way, but I do think it is a valuable point to make. He loves her -- all of her, and if she can start to believe that it will help her to deal with her own insecurities.
Just offering a different way to look at it.
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