Shere Hite and "vaginal ache"
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Shere Hite and "vaginal ache"
| Sat, 07-02-2005 - 6:01am |
In Shere Hite's book "The Hite Report", she describes a sensation in women that Shere calls vaginal ache. It's described as a feeling of hollowness in the vagina as a woman gets very aroused, and a wish to be penetrated. Apparently, not all women experience this.
Is this common, or do some women view penetration as just the next step in the lovemaking process? I have had a couple of partners over the years who reached a point of really wanting me inside of them. They expressed this verbally. Maybe it was emotional rather than physical. Any thoughts on this, ladies?

Wow! Sherri Hite! That's an OLD one. I remember when that came out...it was "sensational" because it was the first "sex" book that wasn't totally "clinical" like Masters & Johnson and Kinsey. If I remember correctly, there was also a lot of controversy over it......because of the way she conducted the research for it.
I think you're entirely right, it's an emotional response. Possibly based on the inherent need to reproduce, also emotional, and originally "programmed" into us for the survival of the species. (Just as the Male need to "spread his seed"!)
If the statistics are true, most women don't have a huge "physical" response to intercourse. I'm one of them......but I still need or want that penetration to "complete" the act. Everything else leading up to that is definitely more physically satisfying or exciting, but many of us need that emotional climax to mentally satisfy us.
Yes, it exists for me. It all depends on the state of arousal. I can be aroused and orgasm through clitoral stimulation WITHOUT ever feeling that yearning to be penetrated(although intercourse still feels great). And then there are the times when I'm extremely aroused(even without any foreplay), and I MUST be penetrated. I am SO engorged and swollen that intercourse feels incredible(even if it's a finger). I need some resistance within the vagina because it's pulling inward(I feel like it's the center of gravity within my body). It's very much physical because it happens even while I'm masturbating.
Edited 7/2/2005 10:38 am ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
>>I am SO engorged and swollen that intercourse feels incredible(even if it's a finger). I need some resistance within the vagina because it's pulling inward(I feel like it's the center of gravity within my body).<<
Very nice description!
Off-topic sidenote, or not, but that sentence makes it clearer why girth is more preferable to most of the women who've voiced their preference.
My point was more of, "Your description was a great explanation of what is so fulfilling about penetration."
I didn't mean to say *you* preferred girth over length, or that size was even an issue. Your use of the word "resistance" is a dual description. It feels good to me to have a vagina wrapped tightly around my penis like this -->O<-- as opposed to the head squashed in because of my length hitting bottom.
All in all it clarifies the ache.