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Shes sore
| Mon, 05-02-2005 - 4:10pm |
My wife and i have been married almost 2 years and always says that she needs a day or two for her "friend" to feel better before we can have sex again. My thoughts are that its like a muscle and you just have to work it so it wont be as sore, thats just what i think and im wanting to get some feedback on if this thought is right or if my desire to have sex at least everyday has clouded my priority to my wifes health. And if it is something to be worked out and my thoughts are not right i could use any advice on how to help her.

taoist
thanks
Have you thought maybe her libido is not as high as yours, and she's just using that as an excuse to get a day off? Is "her friend" HER term or yours? You need a little more specific information than that! Is it her vagina, or the outer areas of the vulva?
The vaginal muscles are NOT like your biceps. They're called "involuntary" muscles, much like your facial muscles. They don't need to be exercised. They're normally closed tight, and then when she's sexually aroused, they relax to allow you to enter her. Once the sex is over, the muscles become tight again. They remain the same after years of sex, and even after having babies pass thru.
Are you sure you're taking enough time for oral and/or manual foreplay to make sure she's fully aroused? Even if she is, if it's painful for her every time, then she's nervous, and being nervous, she's not going to lubricate enough. It may seem "wet" to you, but it may not be enough.....and as the others said, if you use some additional lube, that should help. Friction can make a woman VERY sore.
Every once in a while towards the end of my period, the insides of my vagina "feels" sore. And whereas every female's body is different - it is possible that her complaints are real.
As to <<>>; if you force her to have intercourse after she has said she "is sore", then yes! However,if you agree that "sex" involves more than just intercourse and you don't force her when she is sore, then no!
>>Have you thought maybe her libido is not as high as yours, and she's just using that as an excuse to get a day off?<<
My thoughts exactly. While it's entirely possible that she really is getting sore, don't discount the possibility that she's using this as an excuse for a break.
I also agree that you need to find out more information than "her friend" needs a break. Our anatomy is made of many different parts, and finding out exactly which part is sore - and what type of pain - would make a world of difference to the solution.