should i ask for a 3some?
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should i ask for a 3some?
| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 9:30am |
My bf and I were discussing sex, generally, and he said that he doesn't do oral-ever (or 3somes). I must admit I was very disappointed about the oral aspect, because it's something I enjoy and will miss, but I love everything else about him. Shall I still ask him for oral(or a 3some) or direct him towards oral during sex?
Edited 8/9/2004 9:52 am ET ET by exhibityme

Accept him as he is, or move on - hard one.
From the boards, oral sex is usually liked by both sexual partners. If the guy is against cunnilingus, it could be for a NUMBER OF REASONS: 1-afraid of STD's, 2-unsure of the cleanliness of the woman, 3-nervious about not doing the act correctly...Mac
Perhaps, rather than quietly accepting it and not saying anything more, you should let him know your opinion too. If there is a compromise to be made both opinions have been shared. At the moment he doesn't really know what you think about it. He probably _assumes_ that you like oral sex and he probably _assumes_ that you have accepted his position. But if it's important to you I think that you should discuss it further. Nothing may come of it but at least you are both clear about it.
The same applies if you are asking for threesome. He will have an opinion about that too. You will have to see if you share the same ideas, or if you can reach a satisfactory compromise.