Should I be concerned

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Registered: 04-25-2005
Should I be concerned
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Mon, 04-25-2005 - 6:38pm
My husband and I have been together since 1997. We have two wonderful girls, and I'm blessed to have the opportunity to be a stay at home mom. But lately, any advances I make toward my husband are just thwarted off by him going to sleep. No matter what I do. I get out of the shower and sit on his lap, and he still goes to sleep. I mean I know I don't look the same as I did when we were dating, but could he really not want me because I'm a little over-weight? Someone help!

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Registered: 06-14-2002
Tue, 04-26-2005 - 11:34pm

Tish,
Let me tell you why he can't stay home for half a day with his wife right now .... He is a farmer. My DW's older brother is a farmer and her father is a farmer. Right now it is spring. Time to get the fields ready and the crops in the ground. It has been a wet winter and spring nationwide. If the fields are dry enough to work, the farmer has to work them. If he doesn't get his crop in as soon as he can, he risks not making a crop at all. The man is working basically 3-4 jobs. The OP needs to figure out (or ask him) why he needs to work so hard to support his family. Are there other issues that need to be addressed? Are they in serious debt? Are they anticipating some new large expenses? Does he (she or they) have expensive dreams that he is trying to finance? It seems to be that her DH is trying to work himself to death for some reason ... and when they find out what that reason is, they can address it and deal with her concerns.

CH

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Registered: 04-26-2005
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 12:02am
I feel bad for you because I feel the same way. I stay at home with my two kids and I Don't think my husband looks at me the same way he did before I had kids and it bothers me sometimes. Have you talked to him about it? or does he seem like he does not care. I would try to talk and see what he thinks. I'm sorry i can't help. I'm trying to figure out the same thing but my husband does not like to talk about problems. good luck! sarah
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 7:09am

I understand the farming business, I spent a lot of time on a farm when I was growing up.


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