Should I do porn?

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Should I do porn?
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 5:11pm
Myself and my female friend were approached in a bar by someone who runs a porn site and makes videos who asked if we would be interested in working with them. It was actually a woman who approached us which i guess is unusual.

I took their card with contact details. The money they offered is real good and i've checked out their site and they seem genuine. I'm seriously considering doing it and my friend is keen too. They want us to do a girl/girl video together which would be a bit weird but we are good friends and really comforable with eachother.

At the moment I feel like I want to do it but worry maybe in the future I'll regret it although I'm not sure why i would unless someone close to me found out.

My other worry is that although it is a turn on thinking about it now i might feel a bit cheap afterwards. The description of what she will shoot that she emailed to me is fairly blunt and straight forward - 'Graphic girl/girl video including kissing, fingering, clit licking, anal licking and toys'. I am comfortable with all this stuff (i think!) but the factual crudeness of it all makes me feel like i might feel like a piece of meat afterwards?

Any opinions? Has anyone done anything like this befre or being asked. Advice needed!

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 2:57am
You don't care if your family or someone close to you sees it? Girl, what's wrong with your head? Do you not have any respect for yourself? Do you not care if you end up with an STD and/or HIV? I look at porn all the time (with my man, that is). I have seen so many different faces/ flicks... girls ages 18-52. There's your teen porn sites (www.teenybopperclub.com, for example) and your "MILF" websites "www.pleasebangmywife.com" or "milfhunter.com")... your face/ demo will be on one. Think about what you're saying-- you sound young, immature, and "stupid." Sorry to say it. If you want, check out: www.consumtionjunction.com and click on "free smut" to see what I'm talking about... you'll learn, girlfriend, you'll learn.
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Registered: 12-24-2003
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 9:35am
I've known a couple or three people who've done porn, so my attitudes may be in the minority. (I also have a good friend who's a stripper).

I say as long as you're safe (STDs and shuch) and you go into it assuming *everyone* will see it, you'll be fine. Doing film may not be as hot and titillating as you may think, so don't get disappointed if it starts becoming "a job".

And yes, I've slept with one of those women in the biz. She's the best lay I've ever had. She's open and smart and has a high, healthy, opinion of herself. One thing that can be assured, you can never be called a prude if you do this.

If you and your friend are comfortable with each other and are willing to do this, DO NOT REHEARSE AT HOME. Save the chemistry of first contact for the movie!

My .02 cents.

Muttley

P.S. Lastly, if you want to hear about a female porn star I'd want anyone in the business to emulate, it would be Asia Carrera. She's got her own website so look her up. Hell, she may even answer you if you ask her advice. I have it bookmarked somewhere, so let me know if you can't find it.

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 10:38am
I've vistitted Asia's website. She seems like a funky chick, lol!
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 11:57am
Asia who? Never heard of her. Jenna Jameson is my ultimate favorite-- she is beautiful! What is Asia's website called? Just curious...
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 2:06pm
I'd rather regret *not* doing it than regret *doing* it.
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 12:25am
muttley44, let's just hope you used protection w/ the chic that you slept with who happens to be in the business... lord knows how many guys she's screwed! I wouldn't brag about it... it sounds like you're bragging. I am my own man's "pornstar." I like to pretend.
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Registered: 07-30-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 9:02am
Actually, because of the mandatory testing every six months and the increasing use of condoms, workers in the mainstream adult entertainment industry are probably safer than most of the general public in the same age group.
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:10am
Phat, isn't it a numbers thing again? Whether or not a porn star is tested every thirty days or not, there is a window to consider--anywhere from three months to six months. So all it would take is ONE person to be infected(possibly from an outsider), and they can go undedected for up to as long as six months. So even if they tested negative, it doesn't necessarily mean they are. Which is why it's still risky. High numbers sexual partners = higher risk. Testing is a great way to quarantine it, should it happen, but the truth of the matter is if someone is HIV positive they can work for up to six months and infect those in their path. Condoms are their best bet.

http://www.kaisernetwork.org/daily_reports/rep_index.cfm?DR_ID=23223

(doesn't say whether or not any of them wore condoms)

Window Period

The "window period" is the time it takes for a person who has been infected with HIV to seroconvert (test positive) for HIV antibodies.

The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) says about the window period:

"Antibodies generally appear within three months after infection with HIV, but may take up to six months in some persons."

This CDC definition of a three to six month window period has been commonly used for a number of years and is most often used.

What does this mean for you?

The three month window period is normal for most of the population. Many people will have detectable antibodies in three or four weeks. Very, very rarely (i.e., only a few cases ever), a person could take six months to produce antibodies.


You may be anxious to be tested soon after an encounter which you perceive to be risky (and in many cases, the encounter actually isn't risky). You want to know: can I be antibody tested without waiting three months? How accurate is the test after, say, six weeks?

Unfortunately, we don't know.

Think about this: if you got a negative test at six weeks, would you believe it? Would it make you less anxious? If so, go for it. But to be certain, you will need to be tested again at three months.

http://www.sfaf.org/aids101/hiv_testing.html#window_period













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Registered: 07-30-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:25am
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-However, all those things are true of the general population as well. The only way to really know is to get ahold of statistics for porn stars and compare them to the same age group.
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 12:38pm
I never said it wasn't as risky for the general population. But as you can see, the porn star had sex with Mutt who wasn't tested for HIV or any STD's. Mutt was probably the safer of the two(if all of the porn stars were tested, and none had outside sex with anyone else that was NOT tested) at the time of the encounter, but the question is how safe is she now? Her job entails having sex with many partners, who also go home and have sex outside of their jobs. Eventually though, due to the required testing, someone will find out if Mutt or any other porn stars had sex with an outsiders that had an HIV or an STD. Because you can run but you can't hide. Think of a legalized prostitute who'd get tested frequently. She is clean and tested and then has sex with john #1(who is infected). She then has sex with 100's of men before her next testing. And it's likely that those men she had sex with will also have sex with others and/or other prostitutes. The fact that she gets tested does nothing to prevent the mishap and the mishap to all of the other people involved, but it will control somewhat control it. But the nature of the business is having sex with multiple partners, so the risk is higher, testing or no testing, and the same goes for the average joe. Higher numbers = higher risk.