Should It Still Hurt After 2 Years?!?!
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| Mon, 02-25-2008 - 10:06am |
I have a weird question. My fiance and I have been having sex for about 2 and a half years and I was a virgin when we first had sex, so of course it hurt, but it still hurts well over two years later! I mean, once he enters I'm fine. It's just at first, I truly feel like I'm being stung or something. It's not that I'm not relaxed, I mean, I usually forget about the initial pain right away until I have sex again, and also I am usually pretty wet (and we often use lube) so I don't know if that's the problem either. Just after this last time we had sex I thought I should figure this out, because I hate being in pain before the pleasure, lately, it has made me not want to have sex because I'm frightened of the pain now. I'm not sure what it could be, my fiance is well-endowed, but not ridiculously so, so I'm just really confused on what can be my problem. I really would like to figure this out.
Thanks for your help!

Welcome to the board, kreativespirit21.
Have you mentioned this to your gyn? Sex shouldn't be painful, and your doctor can make sure there are no physical problems that could be causing pain.
Here are a few articles that you might find helpful:
Sexual Pain
http://pain.health.ivillage.com/chestabdomenpelvicpain/sexualpain.cfm
Why is Sex Painful?
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,pscp,00.html
Painful Sex: Causes and Cures
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,3frw,00.html
Sex: What is Causing Discomfort During Intercourse?
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,77m5,00.html
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Sex should not hurt, esp after 2 years. Have you used a lubricant? There are times during a woman's cycle when there is not enough natural lubrication. And that can cause discomfort or pain during IC. I had experienced this but didn't realize there was a simple solution. So I would try that first, and talk to your GYN about it as well.
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Wendy
No, it shouldn't hurt after 2+ years, in fact, it doesn't even have to hurt the first time, if it's done right!
Since the pain is only when he enters, and you've tried lubrication.........it sounds like you're not taking enough time for foreplay.......and you're not completely aroused.
Hello Kreative spirit21,
Nope it shouldn't hurt!
You must communicate this with him and you doctor.
Have you had this problem with any other men?
Lots of good info given by the women here....
I might add, he needs to go in very slowly.. First the head, and let that settle in, then a little bit more, then after a few seconds a little more etc, until he is in, then start thrusting in small movements slowwwly until your vagina has "accepted it.
Many guys just go and ram it in, and if a guy is on the large size, that just not work very well with some women.